Bridesmaid gift étiquette

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
242 posts
Helper bee

I have not heard that. The last wedding I was in I got a necklace the bride wanted all of us to wear during the ceremony. We had our make up done & paid for by her mother. There wasn’t a tote bag full of gifts. It’s a nice thought, but if you are going to spend the same amount as their dress, why not just buy the dress for them? I heard that a long time ago from my mother and grandmother that the bride buys the bridesmaids their attire as a gift for all they have done for the bride. I don’t know if this was true and has since gone to the way side or if my family just doesn’t know what they are talking about!!! LOL! Good luck!

Post # 4
42101 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

sambee99:  There is no standard amount, much less the amount of their dress.

Spend what you can afford. I suggest you buy each girl one gift. Think of something individualized that you would get them for their birthday. You will likely spend less than those who go the “canvas gag and fill it up with junk “route. Then write them a nice card expressing your appreciation.

Remember that anything that you expect them to wear on the day of the wedding, or use for props for your pics ( robes, bedazzled or monogrammed tanks or shirts etc) are not gifts.

Post # 5
2704 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

sambee99:  I haven’t heard of that either. Each of my girls dresses are $160-$190… I have 5, I can’t afford to spend that much. I have got them pretty good gifts… in my opinion haha. But I spent a lot of time looking for personal gifts for my ladies and also good deals. I think you can find/create some really awesome personal gifts without spending a ton of money.

Post # 6
1632 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Each of my girls got a bpuquet of roses delivered to their work, and the card said will you be my bridesmaid. Then after the rehearsal i am going to treat the girls to lunch and then manicures, and then the rehearsal dinner. Then for their actual gifts, they are getting a pearl necklace, pearl earrings and a crystal oragami owl locket with charms that remind me of them. They are also each getting a getting ready robe and each getting a bottle of white Zinfandel and Chardonnay. I also paid for a massage for each of us the morning before the wedding and I paid for professional hair and makeup.

Post # 9
1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

sambee99:  I see. our rehearsal dinner will be 1day before our wedding I will arrange for mani/pedi and massages.

Post # 10
4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I gave each a different asking gift-a bag for MOH, a bear and book for the 10 year old, and wine for the others.

I’m doing a stereotypical filled bag, lol, but the bag is truly reusable since it’s in our colors but has no name or date. The gifts inside will be different but equivalent in price.

ETA: never heard of the dress price rule

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