Post # 1
Let me start off that I can only do one or the other…I cannot afford to do both. So if you were a bridesmaid in a wedding, would you rather the bride buys you a bridesmaid gift for being in the wedding party or pays for your bridesmaid dress as your gift? Is one considered more “thoughtful” or “sincere”?
Post # 3
I voted for dress because I become a bridesmaid expecting to buy a dress and don’t even think about the gift. I don’t need a gift, I’m there for the bride, to make her happy, I honestly forget I’m supposed to get a gift until they give to me. If I went in expecting to fork out a chunk of change on a dress I would probably wear once (something I am fine with because like I said I am there for the bride) and then be told the bride would buy my dress for me I would be extactic. It also helps your girls save some $ and as someone who is tight on money, that is a huge gift. But ultimatly it comes down to your girls and what you think they would appreciate more.
Post # 4
I straight up asked my BMs lol. They both said dress, one changed her mind and asked if she could have a gift if she gave me the money for the dress, I said “sure” then she changed back again and said she’d rather not pay for the dress haha.
I’d ask them, what will it hurt to ask?
Post # 5
i voted for a gift as every wedding i have been in i have paid for my own dress. my BMs are paying for their own dress. For me that is normal.
Post # 6
I would prefer the dress because a lot of the time the gift is nothing more than a prop for teh wedding (jewellery etc) or something Bridesmaid or Best Man branded (that will never be used again) or something not personal 9as in everyone gets the same clutch or whatever).
I would prefer one useless thing in my house ( because very few of us ever wear the dress again) than two!
Post # 7
you can pay for the dress and then just buy something not so expensive as gift,
Post # 8
You know, on hindsight, I think that if my girls didn’t have to pay for their Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, they all would’ve been much much happier. That being said, I got them lots of gifts and they loved those too. Tough call! Either way would be lovely. What if you bought their dresses, and then as gifts, just made them something? A simple framed photo of you with the bridesmaid, and a card expressing your gratitude?
Post # 9
I originally wasn’t planning on paying for their dress but there was so much complaining about the color of the dress, the cut of the dress, the design, the price etc… it was just easier to shut them up by buying it all and giving it to them. Compromising between 6 girls wasn’t not easy…. On the wedding day, I just wrote them meaningful letters about how much they each meant to me and it seemed to work out 🙂
Post # 10
I think pay for the dresses but still get something small as a gift as well
Post # 11
it really does not matter they both are very kind gestures. And I dont think that anyone becomes a Bridesmaid or Best Man for the loot!! However if you wish to pay for the dress and do something little…. Go to cottonage.com they have $5 robes you can Iron on initials. I did them and it was about $6 each one. But dont feel obligated to do both. I think it is ao crazy how there is so much stress on these gifts these are important people in your life they should want to be there for you and help you….
Post # 12
gift. but as long as it’s a gift that isn’t related to the wedding. I gave my girls coach wristlets and pandora charms and i know for a fact they appreciated that more than their dress. They STILL use their wristlets.
If you were going to give them jewelry for the wedding and say, flip flops, i would say pay for their dress instead
Post # 13
It depends on what the gift is, and how much the dresses cost.
Post # 14
I’m paying for their dresses, robes to get ready in and earrings plus hair and make up. I will probably give them a framed photo from the photographer after the wedding as well.
Personally, I would rather have a free dress. Even if the gift was really nice (I know a bride that gave the BM’s silver Tiffany necklaces) I think if you are spending $150 on a gift, why not put that towards to dress?
Post # 16
On the one hand, not having to pay for the dress that Iwill likely never wear again would be nice.
The Bridesmaid or Best Man gift is a thank you for all the support you show them throughout the wedding process and all the help with wedding preparations, I think the Bridesmaid or Best Man gift should reflect the close relationship you have and really express the brides gratitude.
I don’t feel a bride buying the dresses for her girls would reflect that, it’s too much all about what the bride wants in the first place for that to be considered the gift. I would be insulted for the bride to just pay for my dress, rather then give me something small that reflects my tastes and style.