Bridesmaid gift OR pay for hair & makeup?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Which would you rather?
    Pro hair & makeup paid for and small gift : (90 votes)
    83 %
    DIY hair/makeup and nice gift : (18 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 2
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    1362 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

    If I were your bridesmaid, I prefer hair/makeup.  🙂

    Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon

    amanda.417:  I’d prefer a gift and not be obligated to pay for my hair/makeup.  If you absolutely must have your maids done professionally and can’t afford both, make that the gift and that’s fine.  It’s just not what I would prefer.

    Sorry!! Misread.  DIY hair makeup is an option 🙂

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’d do the hair and make up.

    Post # 5
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I would prefer a gift because I can do my own hair and makeup but seeing some gifts that people get their bridesmaids my vote goes for the hair/makeup. 

    Post # 6
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    230 posts
    Helper bee

    I voted for you paying for their Hair and Makeup for sure.

    It’s really nice for them to not have to worry about it and the gift is usually pretty trivial anyway- maybe just a nice, personalized thank you note to each of them about how happy you are that they’re standing up with you, or maybe a framed picture of the two of you.

    It’s the thought that counts more than a monogrammed trinket. 

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I’d probably prefer hair and make-up (plus a nice thank you note of course).  But if I were you, I’d give your BMs the option.  The girl with a massive amount of hair might appreciate you covering the cost of getting it done, but the girl with short hair (or is super awesome at doing it herself) might prefer a physical gift.

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee

    amanda.417:  Can you have your makeup/hair done professionally but let them DIY theirs? Or make it optional for them to get theirs professionally done?

     

    I’d rather have a small gift or not gift than pay for hair and makeup, but I still don’t really see the hair/makeup as a gift :-/

    But I commend you for trying to be aware of your girls’ budgets!

    Post # 9
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I gave my girls the option – They all decided to do their own makeup, but all wanted their hair done professionally so I paid for that, plus got them a small gift (necklaces and a nice scarf that I thought would suit them each individually.)

    Post # 10
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB

    I paid a deposit for all of my bridesmaids to have hair and makeup done the day of the wedding. They would have been responsible for paying the left over amount ($45). I had 8 bridesmaids, only 3 of them used the makeup and hair provided to them. And then I still turned around and bought them gifts.

    I say this beacuse I think you should ask them what they’d prefer. I was fairly upset at the time that they didn’t take the hair and makeup I provided. But I realize now that while I love having my hair and makeup done, everyone doesn’t feel the same.

    Ask them before you make any choices for them.

    Post # 11
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015 - Drury Lane Oakbrook

     

    amanda.417:  I will probably be paying for hair/makeup and getting them small gifts- most likely an under $25 neckalce or earrings off etsy to wear with their bridesmaid dresses. 

    I know when I was a bridemaid previously the bride bought me some really nice costume jewelry, but honestly since it matched her colors I’ve never worn it again.  Another bride who paid for hair and makeup instead basically “gifted” me with some really great photos of myself I would not have otherwise! 

    Post # 12
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    Blushing bee

    I’d prefer hair and make-up… I’ve been there to pay for it and it can get quite expensive!

    Post # 13
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Hair and makeup isn’t a gift. It’s your wedding, so if you require it, then it’s your expense. I’d plan a proper gift for each lady and then let them have the option of DIY hair and makeup OR pay their own share of the professional. That still leaves a bad taste in my mouth because they are making them pay out of pocket for something that is really for your benefit, but at least you are giving them a choice in how they want to spend their money.

    Post # 14
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    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I am paying for my bridesmaids hair & makeup, along with FMIL [my mom didn’t want to have hers done..] My bridesmaids have had no real expense besides wedding gift and alterations [which were around $30 for alterations]. I paid for all dresses, jewelry, shoes, ect.

    I still got each a gift bag full of little goodies and a $25 gift card to places they love, as well as a thank you card.

    Post # 15
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    amanda.417:  can you ask your girls? And how do you want them to wear their hair/makeup? I think everyone will appreciate the thought, but some may want to opt out (I can do my makeup much better than many professionals have done it and I normally end up in a battle over my hair. It doesn’t behave in the way people expect it will and stylists get annoyed when I give them advice on how to deal with it). I would honestly prefer to skip the gift and be able to do my own makeup (and hair if needed). You’d prefer the photos and saving money.

     

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