Bridesmaid gift question: $ on their dress, a few small gifts, or both?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: If you were a bridesmaid (esp. on a budget), what would you most appreciate as a bridesmaid gift?
    $50 toward your dress : (8 votes)
    32 %
    $25 toward your dress and a $20-25 giftcard : (3 votes)
    12 %
    $25 on your dress and a robe : (3 votes)
    12 %
    $25 on dress and 2-3 smaller gifts (tumbler, flash drive, wine, and/or wine glasses) : (2 votes)
    8 %
    $40-50 worth of smaller gifts (robe, tumbler, wine, wine glasses, and/or flash drive) : (9 votes)
    36 %
  • Post # 2
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    1437 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    ms_snugs: Most people will say that purchasing something that is specifically for your wedding day cannot count as a gift. I tend to agree. While it’s kind of you to offer to chip in for their dresses, I’d still get them each a small personalized gift in addition that isn’t directly related to your wedding day. Anything you buy them to wear the day of is seen more as a “gift” for yourself than for them.

    I’m paying for all my girls to get hair and makeup which is costing about $160 each, but I still plan on getting them a smaller $50 gift that is for them to use on their own time (a gift card to their favourite restaurant or store, etc.).

    If it’s not in your budget to chip in for the dress and also purchase a gift, I’d say just choose a dress option that is within your BMs’ comfortable budget (consult them about what that is), and then get them a personalized gift and let them take care of the dresses.

    Post # 4
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    9226 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2018

    I would do both, I agree with PP money towards the dress or something for the wedding does not count as a gift. But I still think you should contribute to the dress on top of buying smaller individual gifts.

    Note: My opinion is largely based on my location – in Australia the bridal party do not pay for their outfits, they are paid for in the wedding budget.

    Post # 5
    Member
    740 posts
    Busy bee

    Where I am from, BM pay for their own dresses. With weddings I’ve been in I never thought of anything differently. As far as gifts, I have always just been given the jewlery we are to wear the day of, it was until here that I realized people gave more than that.

    I agree with your MOH, I would rather pay for my dress myself and get a different gift because I would have already assumed I was paying for the dress.

    Post # 6
    Member
    19 posts
    Newbee

    ms_snugs:  Hi, I’m currently getting married as well. If I were a BM I would like the bottle of wine and a gift card to Starbuck/target.  Also what about a giftcarf for a pedicure? That would range about 40-50.  😉

    Post # 7
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    34 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I would appreciate anything, but especially a sweet letter and a really nice robe.  I was surprised when a majority of my bridesmaids expressed that they would appreciate a jewelry set to match the dresses, and I went ahead and picked out an affordable set on etsy. 

    I also ordered these cards for the notes, because I am a sappy person and they are adorable even though they are all idealized stick ladies. I am a hoarder of cards. 

    Post # 8
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    2203 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2017

    I love gift cards, because then I get to go shopping.  So that would get my vote.

    I personally wouldn’t care for the rest.  Maybe the wine or a robe.  But I have enough tumblers, USB drives (SO MANY- literally at least 10), and glasses.

    Post # 9
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    2114 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I don’t agree that something for the wedding can’t count as a gift. My best friend (I am a bridesmaid in her wedding in July) bought our dresses for our Christmas gifts as a thank you for helping her stay sane, and then is buying us our jewelry and a little something extra. Obviously, we were all ready and willing to shell out for all these things, but are so appreciative that she did this for us. But, if you’re gonna go the gift route, I’d rather get a gift card so I can buy something I know I want rather than something that will sit in a closet for a few years before it is inevitably given away or discarded.

    Post # 10
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    93 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I have never thought about ‘day of gifts’ not counting….we have a tight budget for gifts so i bought their matching earrings and am contributing $40 to their hair/makeup cost so total $65/pp

    Post # 11
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    2132 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I think just giving them money towards the dress doesn’t seem that thoughtful- more like you are just trying to get this obligatory task out of the way.  I think it is best to pick something useful and that isn’t for the wedding.  I was thinking about getting my girls jewlery (each something different picked for them), but I was afraid they would think I would want them to wear it for the wedding, which was SO not the point.  I ended buying these cute personalized travel toiletry bag on davidsbridal.com and filled them up with nail polish, a bath sponge, and a bunch of luxury products from lush (soaps, bath balms, etc).  It something different that I think they will all love and it is clearly not something for the wedding.  

    I would go with the robe out of your options.  I think the other options, while useful things, they tend to be really common gifts and giveaways and it is likely that your bridesmaids already have many of them.  Just make sure the robe is actually comfortable (something they would want to use again) and not just cute.  

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