Bridesmaid Gift – Which is better?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Can you get them gifts like you would for their birthday? I don’t like the second option so if I had to pick I would say do the first. However, I (and most of my friends) am picky about jewelry.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

It depends on how you plan to personalise the items – I’ve seen a few bridesmaids gifts with “bridesmaid” emblazoned all over them, and I get you noone ever uses them again. 

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

I’m guessing most of them already have all or most of the components of the wedding day emergency kit. 

I would vote for treating it like their birthday. Second choice would be the jewelry. While well-intended, the tote bag of stuff doesn’t sound exceptionally useful.  

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Bottom Lounge

Have you considered paying for their hair and or makeup?

 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I have received four “survival kits” and I have honestly never used a single item out of them. Usually I just dump all the items out into my bathroom drawer and maybe use the bag again. And I’ve been given totes with my name and other personalized things, but I tend not to use them so much. I personally don’t like wearing anything out in public that has my name all over it. Maybe just plain totes without their name? I’m planning on purchasing robes for my girls off of Etsy, so I’m partial to that idea. I am treating this gift giving like it’s their birthday: besides the robes, nothing else will be purchased in bulk and nothing else will be the same. Each of my girls have different personalities and their gifts will reflect such.

As for something a PP suggested: Paying for hair and make-up can be a really nice gift, actually! I know that I loved having the bride pay for one or both during the wedding. It’s nice not to have to worry about bringing money with you the day of and to have it taken care of. Especially if getting their hair and make up done is something you are requiring, it can be nice to pay for it. I’m sure your girls would appreciate it.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Go with the jewelry but present it after the wedding, not before, so it is clear that the gift is a special thank-you for each lady, not another bit of their bridesmaid “uniform.”  The other items are thoughtful but really not practical for most adult women; a personalized hanger will just sit in a closet, and personalized robes and t-shirts really aren’t what most women consider useful. Once you’re over about 9 years old, personalized items are just not your thing any more for most ladies.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

I know just how you feel we are paying for our entire wedding and are super tight on money I have 5 bms moh included !!!!!I am getting my girls a makeup brush kit ($25 each)with an eye shadow quad(I got in sale 2 for $17 originally $17 each) (moh gets a full pallet $50) a lip gloss ($10)and something that brings back a great memory with them($5-$10) (ex. A softball that I will be writing on how much I love this girl) and a nice picture frame($10)  I wish I could get them something nicer since they payed $200 for thier dresses but it all adds up my best advise is to look for any sale you come across and grab it !!! 

Post # 10
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Wannabee

Simplyjess:  that’s a super cute idea. I’m struggling right now what what else to get my bridesmaids. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

I spent about $100 on each girl and I have 5 maids. Each got a Kate Spade necklace ($48 from nordstrom), plain diamond stud earrings ($12 on sale and with a coupon at lord&taylor), a handmade chevron clutch ($18 from Etsy), and a silk robe to get ready in ($5 from eBay). They were all put into a monogram chevron canvas tote I got from zazzle ($10). I found it to be best to start buying things early and piece by piece as time passed so I didn’t feel like I spent it all at once. I did a lot of research to make sure I was getting the best deal and used coupons and codes whenever I could. I wanted to make sure I got them things that they would want to use again. Good luck!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

 

Daenaria727:  What sounds better to you, a quality piece of jewelry, or a hodgepodge of items including a funny survival kit?

Which one conveys the sentiment you are trying to express?

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

You could try hitting up stores like TJ Maxx, Saks Off Fifth, Nordstrom Rack, Last Call Neiman Marcus, and the Coach outlet. I am paying for my girls’ hair/makeup AND their dresses, which they got to choose from a list of 114 dresses, but I also wanted to buy them nice gifts, so I also got them a tote filled with gifts:

DKNY leather pouch, TJ Maxx ($15 each, marked down from $75 each) – not only are these beautiful and high quality, they can be used as anything from a clutch to a pencil or makeup holder. That way the girls can reuse them however they like. 

Sterling silver earrings, TJ Maxx ($20 each, marked down from $40) 

Sterling silver necklace, TJ Maxx ($20 each, marked down from $40) (the two jewelry items I picked based on their personalities/our shared history, not as a prop for the wedding, though they’re planning on wearing it)

Red heart sunglasses, Fashion District vendor ($5)

Saks brand 45-item makeup palette for eyes/lips/cheeks, Saks Off Fifth ($3–this was crazy on sale, marked down from $40)

Neutregena face wipes, Nordstrom Rack ($1) – two of them never use makeup, they’re going to need something to wipe off their faces

Ruffled umbrella, Forever 21 ($8) – it’s gonna be August and either sunny or raining

All stuffed into a cherry tote, Forever 21 ($10)

Total $82/girl, though I may add to the totes if I find any other great deals. 

I don’t necessarily agree with the “shop as if it’s their birthday” for several reasons. 1) jealousy between recipients (I was one of 4 girls growing up and everyone always tried to give us different gifts at Christmas, and though the price value was the same, there was always one gift that all of us wanted, and there were tears and tantrums afterwards. I know we’re all grownups, but trust me, we still feel this way sometimes) 2) In all the weddings I was in, I cherished the jewelry I was given as a souvenir/keepsake of the wedding, my friendship with the girl, and the great time I had that day. I’ve talked to them and they feel the same way about my wedding. 

If you don’t have time to bargain shop, you could consider giving them a gift card, in which case yes, tailor it to their interests. A $75 gift card + a framed photo and handwritten note may be a great option for your girls; it’s a real treat/gift that they can use as they see fit. 

I would lean away from doing “emergency kits” because that stuff adds up and as someone said, how often do you use that stuff? It’s like the sample sized toothpastes that your dentist gives you. It invariably just sits around.

Instead you could have those items on hand. I bought a bottle of makeup setting spray, bobby pins, pain meds, band-aids, bug spray, mints, etc., that I’ll keep with kleenex and everyone can use it. My “emergency” kits consist of each girl’s favorite energy bar, her favorite bar of chocolate, and a bottle of water. 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 6 months ago by  glasskey.
Post # 16
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Helper bee

Shop for each person individually like it is their birthday or Christmas.  Honestly, most people would have no need for anything you posted in OP, and who uses items with monograms or names stitched in, besides children?  Trust me, they will be much for thankful for gifts that you put thought into and got them something they would truly like.

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

Daenaria727:  I spent around $100 on each wedding party member. The girls both got charm bracelets in colours they like (totally not for wedding) and a purse from their favourite brand that was on sale. One girl I got a little carrying bag that has travel size nail clippers and such. The other has a little notebook from Moleskin that is for book lovers. For my man of honour I got him a nice leather messenger bag on sale that  I know he will loooove and a Moleskin that is for foodies. My point is … Find things that they would love and give each one that, instead of those personalized things … I personally would prefer something thoughtful 🙂

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