Post # 1
I found the perfect bridesmaid dresses today and so I ordered the dresses for all my girls (I have 4 girls in my wedding party). Each dress was $59.99 (If you don’t have dresses yet, Donna Morgan is having a huge sale on certain styles– mine were originally $230). My mom & I were talking and we decided that we would just buy the dresses for the girls as a thank you gift for being in the wedding. One of my bridesmaids offered to give me money and I told her that it was our gift to her. She was amazed and could not stop saying how generous it was since I guess most girls are used to paying for their dresses.
My question is: is it appropriate to give the dresses as gift? Would I still need to give them other gifts? I was planning to get them robes to get ready in, but I feel like that is more for me & the pictures than for them. I only am worried about it because I’m still in grad school and am not made of money. I don’t want to skimp on gifts but I also don’t want to be broke. If you were a bridesmaid, would you rather get a gift or a free dress? I know I would rather not have to pay for a dress but that is me.
ETA: I also made the girls personalized hangers, but not sure if that counts as a gift.
Post # 3
@jeg14: personally I would rather have my dresss paid for and a nice note from the bride.
Post # 4
@MexiPino: Thanks for your reply! I added a poll in hopes for more response.
Post # 5
I wouldnt consider the dresses a “gift” because you need me to wear it for YOUR day BUT I would appreciate it and not be upset if I didn’t get something else. I think all your girls will appreciate that. The robes are a great extra and I’d recommend that they don’t say “bridesmaid” on them so they can reuse them. Most women like robes.
Post # 6
The dress for sure! But I agree a note would be lovely. And maybe a candle? Cheap, but nice. 🙂
Post # 7
@jeg14: Personally I would expect my dress to be paid for because that is the custom here.
If it was not the custom then I would prefer you to pay for the dress that I won’t like but will pretend to, and that you are going to make me wear. I would rather you waste your money on something I am never going to wear again that waste my money!
And given the amount of wedding props that are classed as gifts on this forum I would be greatful to not have to pay for the dress and not receive the robe/glasses/t-shirt/jewellery/bag etc that you might gift me for your pictures.
Post # 8
I think the dress and robe could count as gifts, but if you are feeling like you need to give them more but are tight on cash you could always make them spa kits for super cheap! You just throw in some body lotion, a loofah, a foot file (all found at the dollar store) and some homemade sugar scrub which you can put in little mason jars (that you can buy 12 for $6 at Walmart!) Voila! Another idea is to frame each bridesmaid’s name and then put the meaning of it underneath or you could always make them personalized coffee mugs (if you are artsy.) Just write on them with a sharpie and then bake them in the oven so that the marker stays. (for more info. on that last one, just look it up on Pinterest =))
Good luck =)