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Bridesmaid gifts: all the same or different?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: My bridesmaid's gifts were:
    all the same (ex. same pearl necklace) : (13 votes)
    24 %
    the same with slight variations (ex. one girl got a green tote, one girl got a blue tote) : (36 votes)
    67 %
    completely different (ex. one girl got a pearl necklace, one girl got a green tote) : (5 votes)
    9 %
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    hilsy85    September 2010  

    Did you guys get your bridesmaids all the same gift (this includes something like the same necklace but with different colored stones for each one) or did you get them completely different gifts (one got a piece of jewelry, one got a bag, etc).

    I think I'd like to do something different for each girl, but then I'm worried that the gifts won't seem equivalent, you know? Or I'm debating doing one thing the same, and then doing one thing that's different for each of them.

    What did you guys do?

     
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    Charm bracelet    July 24, 2010   Placentia, CA

    I plan on giving them the similar stuff. I will probably change the color based on what they like. 

    I like the idea of doing one thing that is different.  This way it all seems equal. 

     
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    farmersdaughter    June 26, 2010  

    I haven't purchased all of my bridesmaid gifts yet, but I'm planning on doing similar stuff with slight variations based on their likes/dislikes (such as different colored totes.) I also like the idea of doing one item thats different for each girl, though that requires so much more thought for my poor, wedding-planning fried brain!

     
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    ClairDarling    August 14, 2010   San Diego

    These are yiur best and closest friends, and you know them better than anyone - each gift should be personalized for each girl based on their taste!

     
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    Jacqi    February 28, 2009  

    I didn't vote, but each of my BMs is very different, so I think I'm going to get them a main gift that is special for each one. Then I'm going to include a couple small things that are all the same to tie all the gifts together (like lip gloss or a charm or personalized note cards).

     
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    sboston06    October 10, 2010   Boston area

    I got them necklaces from Tiffany's and I definitely didn't want one to get a Tiffany's necklace and another to get a Claire's necklace.  I picked out different ones that I thought they would like, all around the same price range.  I think it's a good idea to get different gifts based on what you think you would like.  I don't think they will compare or think they got cheated if you really put effort into choosing somethign unique to them.

     
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    owlbride    October 10, 2009   Houston

    I did something completely different for all of my ladies. They're all such unique individuals, I really couldn't think of one thing that I wanted to give to all of them that they would actually use. I'm in the 'give them something completely unrelated to the wedding' camp for bridesmaids gifts, so it just made sense to get each of them something different. I spent the same amount on each gift to keep it even. However, I didn't want them to wear the same shoes, same jewelry, etc to the wedding - I may have done things differently if that hadn't been the case. I did get a couple of little wedding related things that were the same for everyone as well (flip flops for the reception, lip gloss, etc).

     
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    sctigergirl81    October 10, 2010   TigerTown, SC

    a woman i work with whom is very wise said with women - keep it all the same.

    so I'm giving EVERY girl the SAME thing (color, etc.)

    earrings, necklace, jewelry roll, clutch, and other small things. the only gals to receive anything diff? my MOHs - they are getting a ring in with their jewelry and the girl i got to design my jewelry (from etsy) is putting their jewelry in wooden boxes with each girls' names in calligraphy

     
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    mrsmcleantobe    August 14, 2010  

    I got all my BMs the same thing, but I chose a solitaire swarovski necklace so it was appropriate for everyone.  For my MOH, I am going to be getting her something else to go along with the necklace...that's the only difference. 

     
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    azula    February 27, 2010  

    I got them all the same silver necklace -- but, each necklace was engraved with their initials and had their birthstones. So in reality, the necklaces were the same, but not exactly the same :)

     
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    Aug2010bride    August 28, 2010  

    haven't bought them anything yet, but I'm planning on trying to find items that fit their personality but be in the same price range. Not sure how well that will go, since i'm still finding it hard finding a bridesmaid dress still -_-

     
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    hotchildinthecity    June 12, 2010   New York, NY

    I'm getting them all jewelry, but different kinds of jewelry.  Some are getting earrings, some necklaces, some bracelets.  It's working out well.

     
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    PrncssDva    October 16, 2010   Memphis, TN

    I agree with sctiger...I am giving everyone the same things. No drama for me

     
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    skibobrown    July 31, 2010   CA (wedding in Bar Harbor, ME)

    Everyone is getting a Flip video (this includes our groomsmen), plus the guys are all getting their ties, and the girls are getting some jewelry.  I think I'm going to stick with earrings, but I'm not sure yet if I'll do matching earrings, or different for each girl.  Something that might sway me towards the same earrings is that I found an etsy seller who is offering a steep discount and free shipping if you buy 4 or more items from her shop.  She has 1 pair of earrings that I love, so I think I might just get them for all the girls.  (Plus she'll even do clip-ons for my BM who doesn't have pierced ears!)

     
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    Tabbiglass    July 18, 1990   Atlanta, GA

    This is a really great question! Over the years, I've discovered that there is no right or wrong answer. However, each gift should at least show some type of consideration given to each individual. Even if it is only her name or initials. Including her name or initials indicates to her that you at least put some thought into the gift and didn't just grab something off the shelf. Personalization is the key to a great bridal party gift.

     
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    hallhubbell2010    10/02/2010   Kalamazoo, MI

    I am doing the same gift (a coach wallet) but I will get them a differnt wallet to match their personalities. Then I will add some fun little gifts that will be personal to each of them. Ie, one of my girls loves candy, one loves make-up.

     
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    cc8139    April 24, 2010  

    I am getting them all personalized (initials) lunch totes and an aluminum water bottle and then coach wristlets ....I am going to put in softlips chapstick, earrings and a mini bottle of perfume for each ...based on what they like! :)

    I like to keep them all VERY similar so they all know that they are all equally appreciated! :)

     
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    marlew    October 23, 2010   Ajax, Ontario

    I bought royal doulton figurines for my girls, all of them are getting one but different figurines altogether.  I am also getting them pajamas, same style but different colours.

     

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