(Closed) Bridesmaid Gifts – all the same value?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Hostess
8587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I would spend an equal amount on all of them, because you usually present your gifts at the rehearsal dinner, or the day of. That being said, you can always have a separate luncheon or dinner for the 2 girls who have helped you a ton, and give them a little extra gift then.

Post # 4
Member
6750 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I disagree.  I was BM for my friend’s wedding and I was there every step of the way with the MOH – I helped the MOH plan the bach party, I stayed later during the bach party than anyone else (the MOH left early!), I spent a significant amount of money on her bridal shower gift ($200), I went early to help set up the shower and stayed later to help her get her gifts to the car and I really did a lot for her and I thought it was really hurtful and impersonal that when she gave me the gift, I got the same thing as everyone else.

I think the gift is a thank you for all the effort.  It isn’t a reward, but it certainly is an acknowledgment of all the effort that has gone into your wedding.  I would be seriously insulted if I flew in from our of town for every one of your wedding events and you thought to thank me in the same way as the girls who never showed up to your events at all (which is what happened – one of the girls didn’t even come to the rehearsal dinner).

Now, I don’t know necessarily that the ‘value’ should be different, but I think you should acknowledge the girls who did more by spending more time/money/effort/whatever on their gift and less on the girls who didn’t spend as much time/money/effort on your wedding.

That’s just my thought on it.

Post # 5
Member
2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

i didnt do it equal, each got box full of what their theme was, each got a gift card and things that worked with gift card– one was apple bees gift card- then some burt bees items and apple candle. one was a paradise box–gift card to paradise salon and beach scented candle and beach scentsy items. one was standford box- had standford gift card, marion berry flavored chocolate(she gets the marion berry cobbler at that restuant) marionberry candle. last one was coffee lover- so black rock gift card, coffee mug, chocolate covered esspresso beans.

 

each got jewelry to wear for the day too

Post # 6
Member
1377 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I’ve been a BM quite a few times, and I always give my all – it’s just how I am. I’ve usually received the same gift(s) as the other girls and it never really bothered me.

As a BM, I feel my job is to make sure the bride is calm throughout the whole process, assist her with… whatever stuff she needs. Help her on the day of, etc. It’s not about the gift I get at the end, but making sure the bride has the best day. 🙂

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