Bridesmaid gifts… am I being too CHEAP?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
2189 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I guess it depends on your friends…with my close friends, they would understand that paying for their hotel rooms for four nights is a big expense for me since we aren’t rich…but I guess it depends on your circle and their expectations.

Are you crafty? You could always give them something handmade if you don’t think paying for the rooms is enough. Or write them each really deep and personal letters or something?

Post # 3
9930 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

sophiebabie:  I think helping to cover the costs is very generous of you.  I would write them a heartfelt note thanking them for coming.  Are you at all crafty?  Can you make something?

I’m being ‘cheap’ by some people’s standards as well.  My girls are also flying in.  I’m treating them to mani/pedis before the wedding, some people say this doesn’t count as a gift as my wedding technically benefts from them having nice nails (I think that’s a stretch) I just want to have a day of pampering with them.  I’ve bought them some jewellery for the wedding, flip flops and some nice tea (different for each girl).

As long as the girls feel like they’re appreciated for what they’ve done for you then I think you’re fine 😀

Post # 4
8720 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would not be upset if I didn’t receive a gift from you. Paying for their hotel is wonderful! Can you write them each a heartfelt card? 

Post # 5
42967 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think paying for their rooms is very generous and kind. Travelling to weddings can be very costly for the wedding party.

I would write each of them a heartfelt thank you note on a beautiful card and have it delivered to their room at the hotel with a bag of goodies like snacks, fresh fruit, etc .

In the card, I would say that rather than buy them something they might not like or use, I chose to make their accomodation my  gift to them in appreciation of their support.

Post # 6
2227 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I would love it if my hotel was paid for.

Echoing other PPs: what about something crafty?  Like a nice photo album with pictures of you with the BM it’s for?  Just something small, whether it’s an actual photo album or a printed one from Snapfish or something or a scrapbook.  I know scrapbooking can be expensive, but it can be pretty cheap if you work on it ahead of time and don’t spring for the frilly extras.

Post # 7
235 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

What if you make a little basket or something for their hotel room? with just some little goodies in it for their stay? 


Post # 8
7463 posts
Busy Beekeeper

sophiebabie:  If it was me I would get them a little something not wedding related. Everything, including the hotel room (which is very generous) is wedding related and an expense (even the jewellery) that they would not have to incur if it wasn’t your wedding. 

Maybe something that has significance for them or for your relationship with them.

Post # 9
335 posts
Helper bee

I think you’re fine with something small and heartfelt since paid for their hotel – that was a very nice gesture and if I was a BM would definitely appreciate it and not expect a big fancy gift on top of that! It’s about spending that day with you, and even a card would be enough. 

Post # 10
88 posts
Worker bee

Etsy is a nice resource. I also used Novica for necklaces but it was about 140 for 3 (so that may be a bit steep). I did the classic bag, jewelery, chocolate arrangement. Since vera bradley is my favorite I just bought 4 bags when they were all super discounted (happens often – I used black friday). For the necklace I searched for an affordable sterling silver one on novica that matched my theme. I definitely did spend money on that stuff, but I also got a lot for much less than what would be paid in store. I think paying for the hotel is great, as is a letter. I would not be offended if I got no bobbles but if it is an expectation sort of thing then I would bake some cookies to leave in the room. My sister also got all her bridesmaids hardback versions of old books (mine was Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice) so some cookies next to a book with a thank you note written in it would be super sweet and affordable

Post # 11
11945 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d rather something sentimental and handmade than cheap jewlery I’d never wear again.  What about making a photo album/scrapbook with a handwritten note?

Post # 12
2763 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Can you make them something?  One of the things I’m doing for my girls is hangers. They make for a beautiful picture with all of the dresses hanging next to each other….and they aren’t expensive.  I bought a pack of hangers for $9.99…and ribbon for $2.99 and I paid $2.50 per vinyl decal from etsy of their name, and title. But you can write their names on it with a sparkle sharpie or something.  They are a cute gift, in my opinion. 

Post # 13
2763 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

JiminyCricket:  That is a really nice idea. How sweet would it be to receive a heartfelt note from your bride. I love it. 


You could also tell them that their gifts are going to come in a couple weeks and use pictures from your wedding to make them a scrapbook with.

Post # 14
2302 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

i’d have a nice photo of me and each bridesmaid framed (tj maxx etc are great for inexpensive frames!) and wrap it up nicely and leave it in each bridesmaid’s room with a heartfelt card. not expensive, but thoughtful and would likely mean a lot to them!


Post # 15
655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB

I am going to be getting my Bridesmaids Alex and Ani Bracelets. That’s like $40 a piece I don’t have much money and thier are 8 of them.

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