Post # 1
My wedding is coming up very soon, and I still have to get my girls some favors.
I am having a wedding far away from where I grew up, and all of my girls are traveling out for me.
So I offered to pay for their hotel room for 4 nights (they are flying in a day before the rehearsal, rehearsal day, wedding day, and then one day hanging out in the city), which added up to over 450 dollars. Yes, this was a lot more than I expected.
I wish I never offered this and just got them a thoughtful gift, but it’s too late already.
I still feel obligated to buy them nice gifts, but now I don’t really have much left to spend in my budget.
I am still a college student with not much money. My parents are already paying a lot for the wedding, so I can’t really ask more money from them either.
I am little worried that they won’t think paying for their hotel is not a part of my gift. Is there a subtle way to let them know?
Currently, I am going to buy them some cheaper jewelry for the wedding. I don’t know whatelse I could do..
I have four bridesmaids and they are all good friends of mine. What should I do?
Am I being too cheap?
Post # 2
I guess it depends on your friends…with my close friends, they would understand that paying for their hotel rooms for four nights is a big expense for me since we aren’t rich…but I guess it depends on your circle and their expectations.
Are you crafty? You could always give them something handmade if you don’t think paying for the rooms is enough. Or write them each really deep and personal letters or something?
Post # 3
sophiebabie: I think helping to cover the costs is very generous of you. I would write them a heartfelt note thanking them for coming. Are you at all crafty? Can you make something?
I’m being ‘cheap’ by some people’s standards as well. My girls are also flying in. I’m treating them to mani/pedis before the wedding, some people say this doesn’t count as a gift as my wedding technically benefts from them having nice nails (I think that’s a stretch) I just want to have a day of pampering with them. I’ve bought them some jewellery for the wedding, flip flops and some nice tea (different for each girl).
As long as the girls feel like they’re appreciated for what they’ve done for you then I think you’re fine 😀
Post # 4
I would not be upset if I didn’t receive a gift from you. Paying for their hotel is wonderful! Can you write them each a heartfelt card?
Post # 5
I think paying for their rooms is very generous and kind. Travelling to weddings can be very costly for the wedding party.
I would write each of them a heartfelt thank you note on a beautiful card and have it delivered to their room at the hotel with a bag of goodies like snacks, fresh fruit, etc .
In the card, I would say that rather than buy them something they might not like or use, I chose to make their accomodation my gift to them in appreciation of their support.
Post # 6
I would love it if my hotel was paid for.
Echoing other PPs: what about something crafty? Like a nice photo album with pictures of you with the BM it’s for? Just something small, whether it’s an actual photo album or a printed one from Snapfish or something or a scrapbook. I know scrapbooking can be expensive, but it can be pretty cheap if you work on it ahead of time and don’t spring for the frilly extras.
Post # 7
What if you make a little basket or something for their hotel room? with just some little goodies in it for their stay?
Post # 8
sophiebabie: If it was me I would get them a little something not wedding related. Everything, including the hotel room (which is very generous) is wedding related and an expense (even the jewellery) that they would not have to incur if it wasn’t your wedding.
Maybe something that has significance for them or for your relationship with them.
Post # 9
I think you’re fine with something small and heartfelt since paid for their hotel – that was a very nice gesture and if I was a BM would definitely appreciate it and not expect a big fancy gift on top of that! It’s about spending that day with you, and even a card would be enough.
Post # 10
Etsy is a nice resource. I also used Novica for necklaces but it was about 140 for 3 (so that may be a bit steep). I did the classic bag, jewelery, chocolate arrangement. Since vera bradley is my favorite I just bought 4 bags when they were all super discounted (happens often – I used black friday). For the necklace I searched for an affordable sterling silver one on novica that matched my theme. I definitely did spend money on that stuff, but I also got a lot for much less than what would be paid in store. I think paying for the hotel is great, as is a letter. I would not be offended if I got no bobbles but if it is an expectation sort of thing then I would bake some cookies to leave in the room. My sister also got all her bridesmaids hardback versions of old books (mine was Jane Austen, Pride and Prejudice) so some cookies next to a book with a thank you note written in it would be super sweet and affordable
Post # 11
I’d rather something sentimental and handmade than cheap jewlery I’d never wear again. What about making a photo album/scrapbook with a handwritten note?
Post # 12
Can you make them something? One of the things I’m doing for my girls is hangers. They make for a beautiful picture with all of the dresses hanging next to each other….and they aren’t expensive. I bought a pack of hangers for $9.99…and ribbon for $2.99 and I paid $2.50 per vinyl decal from etsy of their name, and title. But you can write their names on it with a sparkle sharpie or something. They are a cute gift, in my opinion.
Post # 13
JiminyCricket: That is a really nice idea. How sweet would it be to receive a heartfelt note from your bride. I love it.
You could also tell them that their gifts are going to come in a couple weeks and use pictures from your wedding to make them a scrapbook with.
Post # 14
i’d have a nice photo of me and each bridesmaid framed (tj maxx etc are great for inexpensive frames!) and wrap it up nicely and leave it in each bridesmaid’s room with a heartfelt card. not expensive, but thoughtful and would likely mean a lot to them!
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2014 - SPRING VALLEY COUNTRY CLUB
I am going to be getting my Bridesmaids Alex and Ani Bracelets. That’s like $40 a piece I don’t have much money and thier are 8 of them.