Post # 1
Hi ladies, just looking for some opinions on bridesmaid gifts, I have 5 girls and so far this is what I’ve done…
-When shopping for Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses: I provided individual goodie bags of snacks and drinks for everyone (this was more of a courtesy than anything else)
-Bachelorette weekend: individual gift bags which included: bottle of champagne, champagne glass, homemade brown sugar foot scrub, an Essie nail polish (color for the wedding), nail file, and assorted Lindt chocolates. Foot scrub and nail polish with nail file were all wrapped in raffia and all bags had pretty tags that I embossed with everyone’s name. (Basically spent a good chunk of time putting them together with love!)
-Wedding: I will be paying for all the girls to have their makeup done professionally, and have already purchased the matching necklaces and earrings for the bridesmaid dress.
In all, I will have spent about $150 per girl. I guess I’ve kind of spread out my gift giving through the whole wedding process… should I give something else for the wedding or is this sufficient? What are you ladies doing?
Post # 5
Write a card saying how thankful you are that they’re a part of your day too (you may have been planning that anyway but….figured I’d throw it out there just in case)
Personally I’d also gift them a picture of them after you wedding, maybe write this in the card? Or give them a frame?
Post # 6
@nansky85: That is plenty! I’d be happy be your BM!!!
Post # 7
I don’t think the make-up, earrings, and necklace can be considered a gift because really they are for your vision for your wedding. However, it sounds like you’ve given other gifts along the way so I don’t think you need to do anything much more.
Personally, I would get each girl one more little thing to say thank you (in addition to a nice thank you). A picture frame with you and her, a bottle of wine, some chocolates, flowers, small blanket, game, or cute scarf. It doesn’t need to be anything fancy and I probably wouldn’t spend more than $15 per girl.
Post # 8
@nansky85: that is definitely plenty! I am spending no where as close to what you are spending. I just cant do it. I would if i could but I cant. I am paying for their hair to be professionally done and a gift from somewhere personal to them. It pretty much comes to $55-$75 each for my 6 girls. I am spending $150 on my Maid/Matron of Honor though.
Post # 9
- Wedding: May 2014 - Scottish Rite Cathedral (New Castle, PA)
I think the gifts at the bachlorette party were great! I would still give them a thank you card day of and i agree with the PP about maybe framing a picture of you guys afterward! But I think you’ve been great to them so far!! I don’t think you need to buy anything else. 🙂
Post # 10
Thanks for the comments! I am definitely going writing a thank you note for each, I’ve written several already for various different occasions (bachelorette, shower, etc).
Personally, I think that paying for hair/makeup/jewelry is a gift– I think it’s a way to show that you appreciate them and what they’re doing for you, and showing that you want to help them out because being in a wedding is not cheap. Plus with jewelry you can always wear it again! But that’s just my opinion 🙂
Post # 11
I think that is very nice of you. I would prefer to have the bride pay for hair and or make up than to give me a gift I may or may not want. Being a bridesmaid can be very expensive and I think the brides sometimes overlook that.