- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
I wanted to get some opinions on something I’ve having a hard time deciding on. First, some background.
I am having a destination wedding, we have about 100 guests and I’ll have 5 bridesmaids (known all of them since high school or college – I’m 28. All of the girls will be selecting their dresses on their own; they just had to be long and black. I don’t really want them to match, so I don’t care how they want their hair, what jewelry, etc. I also waited to ask them until I knew they were coming to the wedding, as I didn’t want anyone to feel pressured to go if they weren’t going or couldn’t afford it.
As far as presents go, I’m really against getting them anything that’s strictly for the wedding. Since I am having a destination wedding and they have put in a lot of effort (destination bachelorette – not my choice, they all wanted to do it) I really want to get them something nice (another topic, having a hard time with what to get them too)!
My dilemma is hair and makeup. I know it’s nice to pay for it if you can, but if I were to do that it would eat into their present budget and I would rather put that money towards their gift. The hair and makeup person is quite pricey ($225 a girl) so it’s really not in the budget to cover everyone.
With that being said, how did you bring this up with your bridesmaids if you weren’t covering it? Did you just ask if they wanted it done (no pressure) or did you send an email out with the costs?
My other option is to use the hotels on site salon. I can’t get my hair done there since I already paid for the hair and makeup lady to come in (long story, did this before we knew we were having bridesmaids). This is A LOT cheaper, about $100 a girl. I could swing to cover this, but just wasn’t sure if you were a bridesmaid would you find it strange if everyone got their hair done on site at the salon, then went back to the room and the bride got hers done by someone else?
Or, I could give them the option of picking hair or makeup, and getting just that done by the same person as me. All of these girls are quite good with hair and makeup, and we’ve actually joked about never liking getting it done because it’s off from what we do. At one wedding three out of the 5 brushed out their freshly done hair and did it themselves, so I’m just not sure it’s even worth it.