Bridesmaid Hair – What did you pay?

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would pay for half of everyone’s, not pay for all of the MOH, that doesn’t seem fair. I didn’t pay for any of my six BMs hair because it was optional, half got hair/make up, the other half didn’t. I got mine a Vera Bradley bag, some lotions, nail polish, candles, starbuck’s GC. I would be fine paying for half (or all) of my hair (as long as I got to choose the style), but would be annoyed if you paid for all of MOH’s. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I agree with PP that it’s kinda rude to only pay for all of your MOH’s hair bill. If you think she deserves an extra gift for the time and energy she’s invested in your wedding it would be more appropriate to thank her with a sentimental gift rather than a blatent monetary one. I also think it’s strange to pay for half of everyone’s hair, it just seems odd to me especially if you are requiring everyone to get their hair done. Not sure how much your giftcards add up to but as a BM I’d rather have you pay for all of my hair instead of giving me giftcards that I may or may not use, or more than likely will forget it came from you when I get around to using it. My opinion is nix the giftcards, pay for everyone’s hair, and buy the round at starbucks if it’s that important to you. If you still can’t afford that, maybe look into a different, less expensive stylist.

Edited to include: Another option would be to offer the nails as an option that each BM would pay for and you cover the hair? Nails are much more subtle than a hairstyle and won’t make or break your wedding photos. I’m guessing nails are cheaper but something about only paying for half of a service you want your BMs to have is unsettling to me.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by  missoptimism.
Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

artdeco:  I did not pay for their hair but I am paying the total tip for the hair stylist.

I also said to my girls you do not need to get your hair and makeup done. One of my girls is not doing either which is totally fine by me

If it is mandatory I think you should pay. I also agree with the previous poster that you should not pay for more for your MOH and instead choose a different gift.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

artdeco:  I feel like every day I add something… I need to Stop!

My ladies are getting;

– personalized wire hangers

– pearl earrings and bracelets

– infinity bracelets

– ‘stress relief’ lotion from bath and body works

– individual gifts for each maid (tea, mugs, travel mugs, picture frames, flask, jewelery)

– mimosa bar for morning of

– I’m paying for their hair

– Thinking about buying kimonos for getting ready

If I were a BM I would be happy to have half the hair paid for, but agree it wouldn’t be fair if the MOH got all of her hair paid for, especially if as a BM I helped with a lot of wedding stuff.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

if it’s a requirement you should pay the full cost of hair, otherwise $80 is steep I only paid $40 for each girl, so I would recommend paying half if it was voluntary

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you’re requiring them to get their hair done, you should pay for it.  If it’s an option, then I think paying for half is fine.  You shouldn’t pay for all of one person’s and only half for the other’s though – it’s unfair.  Do half for everyone, or all for everyone.

The “gifts” that you’re getting all seem like they’re for your wedding.  If they are, then those aren’t really gifts at all. The handkerchief would probably be a gift since it’s not for the wedding, but it’s not something that would interest me.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Forgot to mention — I paid $100 per girl for hair.  I wanted all of their hair to be professionally done, so of course that cost fell to me.  I let them decide if they wanted professional makeup or to do it themselves, and they had to pay the $75 if they wanted their makeup done.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i paid $100 towards their $139 dress, paid for hair and m/u even though i didn’t require it.

and then i got them their gift.

i do not consider hair, makeup, jewelry, etc. that you are requiring them to wear for your wedding as gifts.  these are parts of your wedding.

 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

artdeco:  “It’s either I just pay for their hair and forgo every other gift, or give them all the other gifts and they pay for half their hair.”

If you are making hair mandatory, I think you are responsible for paying for it (all of it). If you’d rather not pay for the hair, you can tell the girls a stylist will be available, and provide the approximate price. Please don’t forgo gifts in lieu of the hair, though. 

 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

artdeco:  And FWIW, I paid $90 for each girl to have her hair done (5 total). I really wanted the experience of getting ready together, and knew that most wouldn’t be comfortable paying that price on their own. I also gave each girl a different set of jewelry, a crystal frame with a personalized note written in it, and a gift card to her favorite store. I provided coffee, and lunch in the suite, but didn’t count this as part of their gift. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

artdeco:  If your doing it in secret and your MOH is the only one who did anything then go for it. No one else will know. Also, like I said, if I were a BM I’d be happy with half my hair paid for, it’s better than none of it paid for. When I was in my friends wedding I paid for my hair, make up, shoes, and she bought us our dresses as our BM gifts.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

artdeco:  Hm well if they don’t know that might be better. I think if I was a bridesmaid from what you’ve written for gifts I would rather you pay for my hair and nails, maybe skip starbucks ( I do feel like you should def feed them if you are all getting ready so I wouldn’t as a bridesmaid see that as a ‘gift’) and then give a nice sentimental card.

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