Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2015 - Fallbrook Hacienda
So I’m having my wedding shower this Sunday and I’ve been planning this day for months! And I told all my bridesmaids as soon as I knew the date of my shower which was months ago! i have 8 bridesmaids and they’re all family; sisters, cousins, step-daughter. my shower is day of the dead theme and I’m having face painters paint all of our faces so I told my girls to be at the location at 10:30am to have your face painted and help set up. Just today one of my bridesmaids who is also my cousin tells me she will be there an hour late because she is going to glamis with her friends and they are returning Sunday morning. ??? It’s so frustrating to realize that I have her an important role in my wedding and she doesn’t take it that seriously. I’m having our face painted for pictures and of course I want all of us with our faces painted I’m not gonna have the face painters wait around for her to he there. And I’m worried she won’t even make it. She’s gonna be partying the night before and I’m pretty sure all her friends are going to make sure to be up early and ready to come home for her to make it in time for my shower . If she doesn’t care Im sure they don’t either . What do I do! ?? I don’t wanna be mad because she doesn’t show up it’s an important day for me and everyone else is gonna be there on time . She made her weekend plans after I had already told her the date of the shower. What if they get stuck In traffic or she’s tired and hungover ?? Sorry so long she just text me this so I’m super frustrated and venting lol!! Help!!
Post # 2
- Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon
Kwhite20: she’s a bridesmaid, not a slave. She’s allowed to have her own life. So she won’t be in the picture with her face painted.
Let me put it this way: kicking her out will probably end your friendship with her. Are you mad enough to do that? Then go ahead.
Post # 3
Kwhite20: You are way over-reacting. Aside from the fact you’re not supposed to plan your own shower, obviously people have their own lives and other things are more important to them than your wedding and its related events. She’s not your slave or employee – she’s not contractually obliged to do your bidding. Booting her out will ruin your relationship so think carefully before you do something like that over something as trivial as her arriving an hour late.
Post # 4
There’s a programme here on TV called ‘Bridezilla’ we thought it was made up – clearly not!
Post # 5
She agreed to stand with you at the altar, not drop her life to be at your beck and call. It’s a bridal shower, not the wedding. Be happy she is showing up at all, because she’s not obligated to do any of that
Post # 6
Kwhite20: hahaha you’re funny. Nice try.
Post # 7
So she can’t show up till one hour late big deal. Suck it up and move on. Maybe she just doesn’t want to get her face painted I know I wouldnt
Post # 8
For someone who is old enough to have a stepdaughter, you sound a little immature. Your bridesmaid is not obligated to show up right on time. It sucks that she won’t be there for face painting I guess, but try to enjoy the experience with your other seven bridesmaids.
Post # 9
Kwhite20: If she doesn’t show up to this one imagine what will happen if she doesn’t show up for face painting (and balloon animals?) at your wedding! She’s a prop after all. Duh, that’s what friends are for… isn’t it? Isn’t it?
Post # 10
Kwhite20: Oh and by the way Dia de Los Muertos is a sacred day of rememberence for deceased family members. Nice way to exploit mourning Mexicans!
Post # 11
This is not your wedding day. You have seven other people to play with! She has had the good manners to tell you that she will be significantly late. Get over yourself.
Post # 12
Seriously? You’re WAY overreacting. So she’s an hour late.. she can paint her own face when she arrives or something.. just work it out. Your wedding day is not going to be anyone’s priority.. her life is her priority and that’s how it should be.
Post # 13
- Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base
I love Glamis. Plan on her not being there. 🙁
Post # 14
It looks like you two are not very close…. It isn’t good to be carried away with this bridesmaids thing. Ask people who are close to you, who help you with your life to be that close to you during your wedding preparations and on the day.
Post # 15
It’s going to take more than an hour for one face painter to do you plus the other 7 girls so it shouldn’t matter if this girl is an hour late as the face painter should still be there.