Post # 1
My bridesmaid has still yet to order her dress and the wedding is July 27th. I have asked her many times to get it done and have been asking since Feb of this year. I selected the colour and have allowed my bridesmaid to order whatever style dress they wanted (which I now regret doing). 3 out of 5 of my bridesmaids have ordered their dress and another is going this weekend to do so.
I have one bridesmaid whom I have been asking who, each week says she will go and then has an excuse not to go closer to the date. I understand life and being busy, but its been over 3 months now and I find it hard to believe that you havent had an hour out of any single day to go out and do it.
I havent asked anything else of my bridesmaids, just to order their dresses, and to order it on time. Absolutely nothing. At this point I have no idea what else to do. I have told her that they need to be ordered 3 months out LATEST, as they take atleast 12 weeks to come in. She was supposed to go again this weekend and then once again has cancelled. I finally told her she has to have it ordered by May 1st. I kind of feel bad, but she didnt really give me any other choice.
What do I do if she doesnt have it ordered by that date?
I could have sworn I had paragraphs in there, not sure where they went, this is my first time creating a post new topic, and I am not sure how to get it in the right section.
Post # 3
Is there something holding her back? Possibly, she can’t afford it and doesn’t want to tell you?
I’d probably be pretty blunt with her and tell her that if she doesn’t order this weekend, she’s running the risk of the dress either not being in, or having to pay a rush fee. Hopefully, that will snap her into gear!
Post # 4
if she doesn’t order it, in my opinion that is her way of saying she is taking herself out of the wedding. It’s really not the end of the world. Is it a financial issue? maybe you could offer to pay for it and go with her to order it to see if that helps?
Post # 5
@TorontoBride2be: we are date twins and I have TWO bridesmaids who havent gotten their dress yet. I gave them similar guidelines, I pick the color, they can get whatever style they want. I am going the the philosophy that if they don’t get their dress, they probably didn’t want to be in the wedding party in the first place.
Post # 6
I think you did the right thing by telling her she had to get the dress by May 1st. I think you should talk to her privately and just ask if she’s having financial trouble. Are you in a position to cover the cost of the dress if she really can’t afford it?
Post # 7
I dont think she is having a financial issue which is holding her back, her mother/parents are actually they ones paying for it. But, I cant know for sure what her financial situation is. I will try bring up paying for the dress and see if that alleviates anything.
I have offered to go with her everytime, and even offered to drive and she agrees than something comes up. Now she has determined that she is going to go during the week by herself.
She responded that she should have the dress ordered by the 1st of May – lets see if she actually goes through with it. I doubt it though.
Post # 8
@TorontoBride2be: I have a bridesmaid doing the same thing, only my wedding is in less than 2 months. She still hasn’t ordered the dress and now is quibbling over colors. I’m about to lose my damn mind.