(Closed) Bridesmaid having an issue that her boyfriend isn’t in the wedding party!

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I kind of doubt it’s actually the boyfriend who’s upset.  I’d have your fiance talk to his friend.

Post # 4
2227 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

It sounds like the Boyfriend or Best Friend is being kind of a drama queen. He’s got lots of people to hang out with, his Girlfriend won’t be away for long & if anything it makes his life easier on that day. Don’t change your plans for him: It’s your day & the way you’ve planned it seems more than fair to me.


Post # 5
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

They sound ridiculous and are behaving like children. Don’t give into their bad behavior.I would not recommend your Fi not bringing it up to this guy reasons why he is not in the wedding party as that would only cause more drama. From her actions it would seem that she doesn’t want to be in the wedding party so give her an out. I would say to her, you are a really good friend and I was looking forward to having you in the wedding party if you are uncomfortable for whatever reason I understand that and no hard feeling if you want to bow out. Invite them as guest and I think that would keep the drama out of your wedding party.

Post # 7
871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would just let it be. Yes, they are acting childish but in order to stay away from drama just ignore it. Also, if she does pull out you shouldn’t ask somebody else. The “replacement” will know she was chosen after everybody else. Its also okay if you have uneven sides. 

Post # 8
1133 posts
Bumble bee

Complete BS. I have NEVERRRRRRR in my life, questioned a bride on her choices, why I wasn’t picked or had concerns about being picked. That’s ridiculous!!!

Post # 10
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

You didn’t do anything wrong- sounds like this couple’s acting like a bunch of babies. :)- I would try to keep couples together at the same table at a reception, though.

Post # 11
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You guys are really going out of your way to plan the wedding around these people.  Remember, this is your wedding, you shouldn’t feel like you have to accomodate to others.  I would worry less about what they think, when they get married, I am sure they will do the same.  Your bridal party should be there to support you, not the other way around.  If she wants to bow out…let her…she is making things way harder on you than they need to be; it’s not like you don’t have enough to worry about with planning a wedding. Be strong, stick up for yourselves and don’t worry about what others think.  If they are really your friends, they will understand. 

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