Post # 1
Hello Bees! I am stuck between a rock and a hardplace. I have already picked out a MOH and 1 BM. I want to ask 1 more BM. The problem is i want to ask FI’s sister to be in the wedding. She has yet to congratulate us on the engagement and she is a full time college student with no means of any income. i am asking my BM’s to pay for their dresses. she can not afford to pay for her dress or anything else that is a BM duty. FI said she can just get the parents to pay for it. i informed him that since it wasnt their responsibilty that they shouldnt pay for it, since they are footing the bill for the rehearsal dinner. i dont know what to do. we only want to have 3 BM and 3 groomsman, and I have another girlfriend that i would love to have in the wedding. Please any advice would be great.
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2010 - Ladder 15 Restaurant
I think that if you have a good relationship with the FSIL, you should ask her. I’m sure she’ll figure something out to pay for the dress, but don’t put too much pressure on her for other things.
I think it’s a nice gesture, and if she doesnt have the money, she can always decline.
Post # 4
I’m with Ms. Socks, you should ask her and trust she will be able to find a way to pay for the dress. I’m sure she will appreciate the gesture. Then you can also include your other friend in a different way.
Post # 5
I would ask your FSIL. She’s going to be family. My FSIL is in school and I assume that her parents are going to pay for the dress… I don’t think it’s a big deal.
Post # 6
I agree with everyone else – ask her and let her decide. We’re having my FSIL stand up too and when we talked about dresses, she told me that her mother is paying for her dress b/c she can’t afford to. I figure it’s not my business who pays for it – she’s got it covered.
Post # 7
I definitely agree. You never know, she may say no, but it’s the thought that counts and is a very nice gesture to ask.