(Closed) Bridesmaid help

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Yeah, I think that would definitely work, because you are not taking away the honor from one person, you are just adding an honor for another.

Post # 5
406 posts
Helper bee

No, it wouldn’t be weird to have 2 MOHs. At least I don’t think so! LOL I think that your idea is a perfect comprimise – you don’t hurt any feelings but you lift up someone who has helped you a lot! Great idea!

Post # 6
2641 posts
Sugar bee

I think you came up with a pretty agreeable solution.   And if it’s Matron and Maid or two Maids isn’t a big deal. 

Post # 7
1962 posts
Buzzing bee

IMO, the honor position is to honor a person who is close to you, not for the things they do for your wedding.  It’s not, however, a reason to take away the title.  Hurt and anger will likely follow if you do. 

That being said, I feel for you that your original Maid/Matron of Honor wasn’t there for you.  Your co-MOH idea is a good one.  Ask your other friend to be a Maid of Honor and if anyone asks why you have two, smile and simply say that you have two close friends that you wanted to recognize on your special day.

Post # 9
1091 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Oakland Manor

No matter what you decide I would find time to meet wiht her alone and give her a special gift or let her know how much you appreciate her going above and beyond.  I have 2 MOHs and one definitely does more "work" than the other and I wanted to find a way to show her how much I appreicate it.  Good luck!

Post # 10
302 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I have two bridesmaids that have both been more active then my Maid/Matron of Honor.  I have actually grown closer to one of those bridesmaids as well.  I’m not planning on demoting my Maid/Matron of Honor though, I just refer to on bridesmaid as my "chief midwest bridesmaid" and the other as my "chief east coast bridesmaid".  

 I think dorsay’s idea of giving her a special gift is great.  I was thinking of taking my chiefs to a special dinner or something afterwards.



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