- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
A few days before my bridal shower & bachelorette party, I asked my one bridesmaid if she was coming to the bachelorette party, since she ignored my MOH’s 2 messages to her, asking the same thing. I also asked because she would be out of town til the morning of my bridal shower/bachelorette party at a big seminar for one of those “home party” multi-level marketing companies she’s quit her 9-5 job for, so I knew she would be insanely tired and I didn’t want her to feel pressured to come & stay out all night. Since joining this company, all she tries to do is pressure me into having parties and buy things from the catalog. I feel like our conversations are just advertisements for the products. She’s become really close knit with the other girls in the company and it almost has a cult-like feel to it. ANYWAY, she wrote back she was flying back early and would be there.
Fast forward to my shower, she was completely distant the whole time and acted like she didn’t want to be there. Later that night during my bachelorette party, she was glued to her phone and again, was distancing herself from the group even after my many attempts to keep her included.
The day after my party, I texted her and thanked her for coming. No response. I texted her later that day. No response. A few days later, I Facebook messaged her, asking if she’s been getting my text messages. I’ve called. No. Response. She has, however, had plenty of time to upload pictures and exchange in conversation on Facebook with the other girls from the event she was at.
My wedding is coming up in 8 weeks, and I’m at a loss of what to do. She’s being very blunt in her ignoring me, but I have NO idea why. Is she bitter because she left her event early to come to my shower/bachelorette party? Another theory is that she is jealous of my Maid/Matron of Honor since I’ve known my bridesmaid since we were 12, and I’ve only known my Maid/Matron of Honor since college. Since she was also ignoring my Maid/Matron of Honor, I had a thought that that could have something to do with it. I have no idea. I’m not sure if I should try to contact her one more time, or just wait it out and see what happens.
What would you do??