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Bridesmaid- include FSIL or not?

posted 4 months ago in Family
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    mayturtle    May 21, 2012   Calgary

    In my wedding party I'm having only my two adult sisters, and then three young nieces that will be jr bridesmaids and a flower girl. My future husband is having his brother and my sister's boyfriend (well, they are engaged) and then his best friend. The only sibling that isn't included is his little sister. I don't have a problem with asking her, but we are not close. FH and I can't seem to decide whether we should ask her to be my bridesmaid.

    What do you think?

     
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    linz09    August 25, 2012   Ontario

    If she's not close to you I wouldn't include her in the wedding party, but you can include her in other ways. You could invite her to get her hair done with all of you or maybe have her do a reading at the wedding (if there are any readings).

     
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    dutchessbee    August 15, 2012   Atlanta

    If I were you I would ask her to be a bridesmaid. I'm sure once she realizes that all the siblings are in the bridal party except for her (if she hasn't already), she will feel left out. I would make her a jr bridesmaid along with your other three nieces. Doing this may give you and the other girls the opportunity to get to know her better. And I'm sure as time goes on you will get closer to her and may regret not including her on your special day. When I asked my SO's sister to be one of my bridesmaids she was so happy and honored.

     
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    armychica06    December 8, 2012   CT

    @dutchessbee: I agree!  Good luck!

     
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    MissBananaBread    October 26, 2013   Birmingham, MI

    I would definitely ask her.  I asked my FSIL even though we'd only met once before (she lives overseas) and I'm very glad that I did.  You are marrying into her family, and she will be your SIL for the rest of your life.  She'll be at family events, holidays, weddings, birthday parties, etc.  It could be a good way to get to know her.

     
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    mg1363    March 10, 2012   San Antonio TX

    I 100% think you should ask her to be a BM. She is about to be your sister (by law) and even though you don't know her very well right now, she is going to be in your life for a very long time. Maybe asking her to be a BM will be the catalyst that really begins your relationship with her.

     
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    mayturtle    May 21, 2012   Calgary

    Thanks for your help guys I have decided to ask her. :)

     

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