Bridesmaid invites

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
42135 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Congratulations! If you haven’t set a date yet, I would hold off on asking any of the wedding party. You only need to read a few of the threads here on WeddingBee to learn that relationships can change over the time period between deciding to get married and actually having the wedding.

Post # 3
7289 posts
Busy Beekeeper

LadyPeacockk:  I didn’t do invites. What ever happened to just talking to a person and asking them to be in your bridal party? I can guarantee that as exciting and awesome as a bridal party invite seems to you the bride it seems OTT and lame to others including BM’s.

Post # 6
1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

j_jaye:  I put together little boxes with handmade necklaces, mini bottles of champagne, and some other goodies along with a heartfelt note explaining what each girl meant to me.  They were thrilled to receive them.  Why would someone think it’s “lame” to receive something handmade and carefully put together from a good friend/relative?  Maybe your friends are just party poopers.

Post # 7
715 posts
Busy bee

LadyPeacockk:  I also <3 to recieve handmade stuff! i definitly think it’s nice to recieve something handmade and considerate. Go for it!  I like kb7’s idea… or some other ideas: 

– mini scrapbook with a couple of pictures of you and the bm? 

– photoframe with a picture of you and the bm?

– or a photo of the two of you printed as a puzzle to put together

Post # 8
4587 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I didn’t ask anyone until I had a date set, but that is definitely up to you!

I only had 2 people to ask – my sister (MOH) and my FSIL (bridesmaid). I bought 2 different cards from an etsy shop that asked them. I included the card in a box with a tiny bottle of champagne, a lip gloss, and some nail polish (that was close to the blue I am using).

Both loved getting them, especially my FSIL (who didn’t think she’d be asked). So, it worked out well. I love doing stuff like that though!

I’ve been a bridesmaid in a friends wedding and she just asked. I’m a personal attendent for a friend getting married on May 30, and she asked with a piece of pumpkin bread!

Post # 9
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center

Congratulations! I don’t have any suggestions for the invites, but I live in Va Beach so I figured I would stop by and say congrats. 😛 Happy wedding planning!


Post # 10
405 posts
Helper bee

Just meet with each person and ask them privately.  If you give them these big get ups, it screams Pinterest and puts pressure on the person to say yes, even if you don’t mean to pressure them.

Post # 11
193 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I waited about 2 months to ask my girls, even though they’re all people I’ve been friends with for more than 10 years, but that’s just me. I sent them each one wine glass with a wine charm in the form of their names attached, along with a mini bottle of wine and a handwritten letter.

Also, I love to receive the invites. None of my BMs live in the same city as me, and no one that I’ve been a bridesmaid for lives here either, so talking in person isn’t possible. Having them send me something is the next best thing to in person because it’s something that they made themselves/wrote themselves. Then, it’s followed up with a phone call.

Post # 13
1970 posts
Buzzing bee

As long as you know your friends would like this gesture (if I were asked in this way it would make me terrified about the bride’s future expectations and I would decline to be a bridesmaid, but that is only me, and I am sure you wouldn’t do this if you thought it would make your friends uncomfortable!), I think it sounds thoughtful for your friends.  I would definitely present the items privately.

Good luck and congrats on your engagement!  🙂

Post # 14
3099 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I just made a card and wrote them a handwritten, heartfelt note. I had thought that I would get them each a little gift, but changed my mind because I am a bridesmaid in a friend’s wedding this year and she gave us these big gift boxes filled with a DVD, candle, ringpop and something else specific to the ladies and, while cute, I’ve moved the box 100 times since I’ve received it. It was very thoughtful, but I have no use for the box, the candle, the DVD (which I already owned) and the nightlight she gave me, on top of this massive decorative box. I sound horrible, I know, but it made me realize that over the top and elaborate does not always a good gift make. Instead, I opted for a simple card with a note. I thanked each lady for being a part of my day, etc. Everyone LOVED THEM! For all of the single ladies, their cards read SINGLE MEN? DANCING?? AN OPEN BAR??? and for all of the taken ladies theirs read FREE CAKE? DANCING?? AN OPEN BAR???

Post # 15
174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015


Kacie209:  Ask me with a piece of pumpkin bread and I will surely say yes! How deliciously clever 🙂

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