Post # 1
One of my bridesmaids just informed me that she is pregnant and due two weeks before my wedding. This could be a problem because it is a destination wedding. We have not ordered our dresses yet. I am thinking that it would be less stressful on her and me if she was not in the wedding. Any advice?
Post # 3
How far of a destination? … she might be thinking the same thing as you .. I would sit down and talk to her about how she is feeling
Post # 4
Give her the option to bow out, but don’t take it away from her.
Post # 5
@Queenbee57: I agree…give her the option. She may want to stay in the wedding, but just brace yourself for her having to bow out at the last minute and maybe have an alternate plan.
Post # 6
best course of action is to talk to her and see how she feels. Tell her you would love to have her no matter what, but you understand if she doesn’t want to get a dress due to it possibily not fitting or her not attending.
I had a Bridesmaid or Best Man get pregnant after we ordered the dresses. Luckily she got an empire waist so it still fit adn she was only 4 months at the wedding…BUT since my wedding was in Jamaica, i told her i would completely understand if she no longer wanted to attend due to being pregnant. She insisted she wanted to come though and everything worked out.
Post # 7
Well it’s still early. It may be nice to talk about it together and leave it to her to step down if that’s what she would like to do instead of giving her the boot.
Post # 8
I would give her the choice. Being that close to her due date, I’m sure she isn’t going to want to travel for a destination wedding (or that the doc will even let her!) I’m assuming she will bow out, but giving her the option of doing that will keep the friendship ties strong. Good luck!
Post # 10
@T-Rex: yeah good point… I think generally pregnant women are advised not to fly any later than a month before their due date. You might mention that to her and suggest she check with her OB… but don’t pre-emptively kick her out!
Post # 11
I definitely this you giving her the option to bow out would be the best and most appropriate choice. You can honor her in another way and call her an “honorary bridesmaid.”
Post # 12
Honest, she would be thinking the same thing. You could give it to her as an option and i bet you she will take it
Post # 13
@dynamic_duo: what a wonderful bridesmaid! I wish I could say as much about mine…