- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Some of you may have seen some of my posts already, but this is the deal:
My husband and I are having a marriage celebration. We were married in city hall, and are now having a celebration about a year and a half later. We are in the process of figuring out how to structure the event to reflect the fact that we are already married, but still have the (semi) traditional “trimmings” of a wedding.
One of the things we are currently contemplating is our ceremony. I’m not sure that we will have a traditional ceremony (or even where it will be, ie. at our reception venue, somewhere else…). Right now we are leaning towards having “a moment” within the reception (maybe at the beginning, maybe not) where we will say some words to each other (“vows”), recognize that we’ve been married already but that we are here to celebrate with those that we love, have a reading or two, and thats really that.
Now, onto my question: My closest girlfriends felt a little snubbed when we got married at city hall without them. (Our backstory is that we married a bit on the early side because of immigration, we had planned not to, and just wait it out as a “regular couple”, but decided on a very short timeline that we would just go ahead and seal the deal. Everyone knew beforehand, and in my defense, it was an amount of time that was fair RELATIVE to our timeline. Additionally, we didn’t invite anyone other than our family to the ceremony, as we didn’t want to open any ‘can of worms’, so to speak.)
That being said, I would really like to include a few of my girlfriends in the entire process, and recognize them as my support network (ie. have them in *some* kind of recognizeable dress, provide them with beautiful gifts as a thank you for loving me, lol, and include them in the day in way that feels special, and highlights them as well.) Without a traditional ceremony (we’re not sure, still on the fence about it), how do I go about including them?
We will likely not have any showers or a bachelorette party considering the “etiquette rules” involved.
The girls would likely be my sister-in-law, one of my oldest friends, and another friend from high school/college. Three total.
Also, these girls are very busy, busy professionals, with incredibly active social lives. They don’t really have time for traditional “bridesmaids duties”.
One idea: We will definitely ask one of them to make a toast (she’s a great speaker, and a huge supporter of us from day one).
I’d like to include them on some DIY sessions. Maybe that’s another way they can be involved.