Bridesmaid issue! Advice appreciated!

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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2516 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@PinkPansy:  I think saying that you are having just family or no bridesmaids gives you a good out…I doubt she wil be crushed and as long as she hasnt spent any money on anything it should be ok 🙂

Post # 4
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42469 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@PinkPansy:  You still have over two years till the wedding. I would leave things as is for at least a year. Who knows where your relationship will be by then?

If you are not close friends at that time, you can tell her that you have decided to have no attendants .

Post # 6
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139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

You sure can UN-ask a bridesmaid. Its your wedding, it will hurt you more to keep her on that it will hurt her to be un-ask. You stand to lose more than she does, emotionally. You will see her forever more in your wedding photos. And you will need to deal with her as a bridesmaid in the lead to your wedding. Sounds like she doesn’t really want to hang out with you, it might be because of say maybe lack of common interests? That’s ok people are different. She is naive in thinking that she is in a position to help you plan your wedding just because she is in a bridesmaid position. My point is: friendship comes first, then if they are helpful in wedding planning then that’s a plus. You need to let her go before it drags on. 

Post # 7
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409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Unask her! A asked a friend and since then we’ve stopped talking altogether although she calls me when she needs something every now and then. I didn’t even Unask her lol, literally just excluded her. 

In two years time you’ll have drifted so far apart you may not even need to unask, trust me. 

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