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    Sweeney2Be    Aug 23, 2008   Twin Cities Minnesota

    Hey everyone! I'm Amber 27 from MN -

    I had origianally had 3 maids of honor (well 1 maitron, 2 maids) The maids were my sister and my best friend. Both of which were equal in importance in my life due to some falling out and distance from my sister that has been moved past now....

    anyway the isses is the best friend. She refused to come with to help me pick out a dress, complained about having to come to the engagement party becasue someone else we both know  is having an open house the same day, backed out of being the maid of honor claiming it would be to expensive and is always insisting that the dress I pick for my girls be really really cheap because she's in another wedding that same month. Not to mention that she threw a FIT that when she was the maid of honor, that the Maitron of Honor would be going before her in the wedding, we had already told her Family before extended family and from that she assumed that she would go before my fiances sister???

    Now, I'm already keeping budget in mind for my girls and would never expect them to pay a ton of money for a dress! She knows this of me. But all this constant complaining is driving me crazy and I never expected this of her. I feel like  I should just plan the whole thing around her, I have to get special food ebcauseshe's lactose intolorant, listen to her bitch she won't be able to eat any of the cake....I'm out of my mind!

    Any help, suggestions ANYTHING!?

     

    Thank you!!! 

     

     

     
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    Beccs    07-05-08   Naperville, IL

    I would just sit her down and tell her that she is very important to her, which is why you asked her to be a MOH.  However, you are getting the feeling that she isn't interested in being in your wedding.  Tell her that you understand if she feels that she cannot make the commitment to be in your wedding, and you'd understand if she just wants to come as a guest, and give up her role as a MOH.  I would also possibly mention that you are very busy with your wedding and it is difficult that she isn't being more supportive.  


    Basically I would stress that you still want her to be in your wedding, but she needs to change her attitude.  You shouldn't have to constantly be checking with her, or making special arrangements to avoid her getting upset about when she walks in or whether or not she can eat cake.  I'd give her an out if she wants to give up her role as MOH, but don't try to push her to do so.  Maybe she doesn't realize how she's acting and just needs to reminder that this is your day and not hers. 

     

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