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I dunno, trying on clothes is kind of one of those girly things. I knew a lot of girls in college who went out to try on dresses just for fun. I would guess your friend is just sharing your joy empathetically. Try not to begrudge her that!
That said, even though it wouldn't bug me, I can see why it would bug some women I know. Maybe you can just handle it indirectly by responding with something like, "Haha, that would be kind of crazy! I mean, what if you look hotter than me? Jk - it means a lot to know I'll have your undivided attention. :)"
It would upset me. She sounds like she must not be happy if all the attention in the room isn't on her. I guess it wouldn't be so bad since you're essentially just going to make her happy anyway, but it would piss me off too. :P
I wouldn't be upset. The day is still about you, you're the one seriously searching for a gown.
It definitely wouldn't upset me. She might be half-joking to test the waters, but I'm sure if you say you'd rather she didn't she won't.
"Everybody" wants to try on pretty dreses. It's a fun experience for the most part. I went with a bridesmaid who doesn't have a boyfriend and another that's already married, and both found at least one dress that they were like ooooh, I wish I could try this on.
I'm sure she'd rather save her first experience when she's actually trying them on for her own wedding, and is mostly kidding.
This wouldn't upset me (but not much does) trying on dresses is fun so I understand the urge.
I wouldn't be upset because I'd just assume she meant that the dresses will all be so pretty that any girl would want to try them. But, I kind of wonder if perhaps there is a back story to this that might lead you to be upset...for example, does she always have to be in the spotlight? Has she been very jealous of your wedding? If not, it was likely an innocent comment.
I wouldn't be upset. You have obviously gone "all about you" wedding dress shopping with the moms and sister, so why would her trying on a beautiful dress and fantasizing an issue?
Honestly, watching someone else try on dresses while you sit around gets old pretty fast.
It would upset me if she wanted to spend the whole time trying on dresses and was totally not helping me in deciding on a dress. If she went and was excited for me, watched me try on dresses, and was generally helpful but also wanted to try on a few just for fun? I wouldn't care at all! Sounds like a really fun day :)
Thank you guys for your input. I knot I have been on edge lately so I keep thinking I'm sure I'm just stressed about it. And I do understand that watching someone try on dresses gets old fast. But that is the reason I don't want her to go and she keeps insisting. She great and I lovve her, but sometimes she just makes comments and make me have to step back and think about but I know she means well :"]]
I think she's just trying to share in your excitement as opposed to taking it away from you... but she might be doing it in a ham-fisted way. It reads as an indirect compliment actually, because it sounds like she's jokingly expressing jealousy that you get to try on beautiful dresses that she would love to try on. I seriously doubt she's truly thinking of trying them on...
I'm with Julialimei though--is there some history there that would cause you to take offense?
It wouldn't upset me at all, but I'm not easily upset about much of anything, but I can understand why you wouldn't want her to. But it couldn't hurt? Especially since you already did the formal shopping with your family. You should tell her how you feel, just maybe in a way that won't make her feel bad.
Honestly though, most places don't want to deal with you if you don't want to buy a dress--it would be a waste of THEIR time for her to try on gowns she definitely wasn't going to buy. I've actually seen this first hand at a bridal shop.
Um...you're in a girly store with tons and tons of beautiful dresses. What girl doesn't want to try them on and play dress up with her friend?
Don't worry, I'm sure she doesn't mean to step on your toes. She's probably just really excited and the right words didn't come out. Personally, I can understand why you would have appreciated if she kept that comment to herself but so be it. Some people don't have filters when it comes to comments.
This would bother me. You are going shopping for your gown, it isn't a game. If she is worried about being bored, then she shouldn't come. Although, I wouldn't worry too much about it. It is doubtful that the salepeople will let her try on a gown, because it would be a waste of their time.
She is probably just being silly. I mean, do you REALLY think she'd want to try one on? I tried to talk a friend of mine into trying on dresses with me, though. It's kinda fun--but she didn't want to.
Well you don't feel she is taking this outing seriously, when you basically aren't either. You didn't want her to go with you when you really try on dresses. So you made up a day to appease her. I guess you could say since you're going, you'll try to get something acomplished. But you seem to be doing this more for her sake than yours. Besides, she really didn't say anything that extreme. She didn't actually say she WAS going to try on dresses. (And I would only be upset by that, if I was under the gun, and really needed my BM to help, and really just couldn't waste time.)
However, if you find that the only reason she wanted to go dress shopping was to have an excuse to try on dresses, and not really help you at all, then I couldn't blame you for being upset, because she's really just wasting your time.
I would be upset if she tried one on...I mean it's not like you guys are goofing around and comparing with one another. It's your day and buying a dress and trying then on is a BIG deal.... Is she your MOH or a really good friend? I mean if you don't want her there...its ok to say something.Do what is going to make you happy and HAVE FUN!!!!
Seriously? She sounds like she's just making a joke. Being funny. I might say something like that, because it's a way of saying that trying on dresses is super fun and they're all so beautiful and yayyyy wedding dress shopping. She's apparently enthusiastic, which is nice. This is the problem with text conversations...you can't hear inflection.
When I went with my family it was a random moment and I tried on just a few dresses but haven't found anything yet. She is just one of those girls who want to help out with whatever they can and try to do everything with you :"]] which is a good thing! she has never really had a close female friend so I understand how she is :"]] And she just got in a relationship with this guy and I know it's every girls dream to find the right guy and have your moment so I know she hopes this guy will be the one
When I wend dress shopping, I kept showing dresses for my friend to try on even though she's not even engaged! I knew she loved the dresses and that she was dying to try them but would never have mentioned it. It made the shopping special for her too, and we did find my dress and she gave me her full attention when I was trying them on. It takes nothing away from you.
If she just got into a relationship, she may have wedding on the brain and joked about trying on dresses because she likes him so much and it may be her turn one day.LOL I doubt she was trying to upset you?
It might be your special time to try on dresses, but before I was engaged and went dress shopping with a friend, I wanted to try some on! It's fun, especially when you haven't done it before!
It wouldn't upset me, but since it does irritate you, you could say something like, "You're more than welcome to try on a bridesmaid's dress" (that it, unless they're already picked out).
Thanks again everyone. You've made me feel better about this little situation :"]] I think when I recieve the text I was just on edge already with other things. Thanks again!
It certainly wouldn't upset me at all. Why would it? What woman wouldn't want to?
Why are you making an issue out of something that isn't one?
I think you eed to take a step back and take a deep breath! She's probably just saying how lucky she thinks you are to get to try the dresses on :-) I know it's tough when you're under a lot of wedding pressure, but I don't get why it's a big deal if she tried something on? You already said that you didn't want her dress shopping with you and your family, and you're going so she doesn't get her feelings hurt...
Yeah, this isn't really a big deal at all. There are enough actually stressful things about planning a wedding. Try not to let the little things like this get to you.
I think that the only person who has a right to be upset is the employee who may have to waste her time pulling a dress and putting it on the girl who isn't even getting married.
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Okay ladies, so I don't know if this is just me being rude or stressed out but my bridesmade has been on my last nerve.
Tomorrow we have plans to go to the bridal store to try on Bridal Gowns. I didn't really want her to tag along when I went with my mother, sister and MIL. So tomorrow is the day I plan to go just with her so she doesn't get her feelings hurt. We were just texting about when we want to meet up and then she texted me saying... "I'll have to fight the urge to not try one one" Would this upset you?
She is not planning on getting married anytime soon, and she is deff not engaged. Tomorrow should be my time to try on dresses. She has no need to even want to think about trying on a wedding gown.