(Closed) bridesmaid luncheon required?

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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48 posts
Newbee

                                        It’s basically a thing you host for your bridesmaids as a thank you for all their help. You don’t have to do a lunch-I’d do something, particularly if they’re giving you a lot of help with stuff or throwing a bunch of parties. Or just get them nice gifts-whatever’s in your budget. One wedding I went to recently, the bride paid for hair/makeup on the day of as well as their gifts because she was tight for time. Heck, write them a nice thank you letter.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

The bridesmaid luncheon is a very old tradition that, in my opinion, you can take it or leave it.  Having been on both sides as a bridesmaid (many times) and the bride, BMs commit to a lot of time for a wedding, like dress shopping, fittings, bachelorette party, shower, the actual wedding…

I opted to have just a shower, and made sure it was a great one.  Then the day before the wedding, I hosted my bridesmaids for a spa day of massages, manicures & pedicures, AND lunch.  It wasn’t a formal bridesmaid luncheon, which they were all fine with.

Entirely up to you on what you want to do.  I think if you show your gratitude for their partipation in some way (like the poster above said by paying for hair & make-up)or something, I think most BMs would be fine to pass on a luncheon. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2018

Most of my gals are from out of town, so I am not having my bridesmaids’ luncheon until the day of the wedding! Because our ceremony is at 7p.m., we have a little time to play around. The morning of the wedding, I am going to take the girls to tea for brunch, to get our nails done at a luxe salon within walking distance (on the Pearl St. Mall in Boulder, which is a cute pedestrian mall), and then to get our hair done (also on the mall). Hair and nails are part of my gift to them (they are also getting pearl necklaces/earrings, an enamel picture frame in the wedding colors (love $5 frames at Target and a few other assorted items), and it seemed fun to have a pampering day together before the wedding.

Post # 6
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Newbee

I am doing a Bridesmaids Breakfast at a nice restaurant the morning of my wedding.  I think breakfast or lunch are a nice way to say thank you to the girls.  Plus it will give everyone lots of energy to start the day!  Since we are not having a rehearsal dinner I will be giving them their gifts at this time.  I am also inviting my mother and my FMIL.

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

i too dont have the time to do a formal bridesmaid luncheon, so….im getting them Mikimoto pearl earrings as gifts and giving it to them on the rehearsal dinner. my FI is getting his GMs stainless steel razor blades (u know those old fashion ones?).

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