- Pink Asawa
- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
I just have to let it out here so I can get it off my chest and let it go…
I have a bridesmaid who is my best friend. I love her and I was her maid of honour in her wedding recently. We both got engaged around the same time, with her wedding a few months before mine. I was super mindful of the fact that now is her turn, her moment, and tried to keep my own wedding talk to a minimum whenever we were doing something specific to her wedding ( bridesmaid meeting, bridal shower etc.. ) because I didn’t think it was fair to take the spotlight off of her while we were in her moment.
Fast forward to now, where it is my turn to have the spotlight. Bridesmaid is pregnant. (Side note – I have ZERO problem with a pregnant bridesmaid whatsoever, her dress is very accomodating, she won’t be far along, and I am truely happy for her)
However… here is where my mini vent comes out. I feel like everytime we are in wedding mode ( bridesmaids helping me with planning, at MY bridal shower etc ) all she talks about is the woes of being pregnant and what she eats and how she feels and everything about her. Having a baby is super exciting and we are all thrilled, so naturally everyone is excited to talk babies with her, and I guess I am just feeling a little peeved about it. Especially since I was super sensitive to her being the bride and having her bride time I was hoping to get the same in return. If people want to ask her questions about it that’s fine, but what irks me is that she is the one constantly bringing it up and wanting the attention. When people would ask me about my engagement and wedding plans at her shower I would give them quick answers and somehow divert the convo back to the bride. Yet at my bridal shower all you could hear was her and her baby talk. Everything wedding related somehow got diverted to a pregnancy related comment by her, and I felt a little forgotten.
Anyways, I’m not trying to stir up drama, I know having a baby is more important than having a wedding. I just also think everyone deserves their moment.
Thanks for letting me get that off my chest!