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That's a tough one. I think if you told them you didn't mean to ask them, their feelings will get hurt. Is it possible for you to add a couple more bridesmaids? I would be careful to not hurt a friendship in this situation.
girl, it looks like you just got yourself ten bridesmaids. May the Force be with you!
@starbuck: Yup!!
I think it will be hard to say anything without offending the girls. My friend whose wedding I'm in did the exact same thing & then told me about it. I offered to step down since she could only have 1 of the 2 girls (and I was ok with not being in the wedding) but she had another solution.. she made them draw names. Don't do that!
@starbuck: Ahahahaha! That may have made my night.
OP, did you actually ask them or do you just not remember (haha)? If you did ask then I'm sorry but I think you're stuck. =( If you try and unask them it would probably really hurt their feelings and you could lose your friends.
Uh oh, lol. You could always go with the budget line about not being able to afford the flowers/added expenses for additional bridesmaids and you had to "cut back." Or maybe ask them to do readings or be personal attendants instead? So sorry! Good luck!
Tell them the dress is going to cost $500 they will backout on their own :P
Well, it looks like you'll have a big pool to draw from for help with the wedding! They are your good friends anyway, just think of how much fun your bachelorette is going to be lol!
... alcohol makes decisions for me to somtimes, I LOVE love after a few glasses of wine. No more bubbly during important conversations, have fun planning your wedding <3
PS. My fiance did this with a groomsmen, had a few drinks and asked an old friend to be in the wedding party after we'd already decided we were going to have a small one (2). And he did it TWICE! :P lol. It worked out good for me though, I had 4 ladies in mind in the first place.
Ask them to be a part of it, just not a bridesmaid! Ignore the fact that you even asked and keep them updated on the wedding in terms of "okay, so these were the passages that I was considering for you to read. You need to be here at such and such time to do the programs" blah blah blah. Maybe just ignore it and it will go away. :)
Ditto starbuck and runswithbears. Think about how hurtful it would be if someone asked you to be a bridesmaid, then told you the next day that they were just being silly and drunk and didn't really mean it. I know I'd be astoundingly hurt.
you could either ask them to do something besides be a bridesmaid like the be in the houses party orrr is there anyway you could cut two of the other 8 since you havent officially asked them?
Getting drunk and asking someone to be a bridesmaid is still asking.
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Hi ladies--
So, I had been planning on having 8 bridesmaids--have not "officially" asked them yet, but they know who they are and know they will be involved (I want to have a dinner for all of them and ask them formally, but they are expecting it, ya know?). While I was out with those ladies, 2 other friends joined us as well. I adore them, they will be invited to my wedding for sure, but wasn't planning on having them in the bridal party....until I was drunk that is. I get very lovey dovey when I've had a few to drink--annnd I included them in the bridesmaid talk and think I kinda asked them too...
SO, what to do?