(Closed) Bridesmaid no longer can be a part of the wedding

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
6351 posts
Bee Keeper

I would tell her exactly what you wrote above

“Shes still coming to my wedding, she is one of my best friends, and I’m honored to be her friend during her time of crisis.”

and Kudos for being such a good friend to her!

Post # 4
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Does she live near you? Can you take her out to lunch or dinner and just catch up and chat? Show her you still care about her and what’s going on in her life. Let her know that your friendship is more important than one day of her standing next to you.


If she lives far away, maybe send her a little care package and a note reminding her that friendship lasts a lifetime… being a bridesmaid only a day. You care more about the friendship and making sure she’s ok, then making her stand up next to you.

Post # 6
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@SoontobeMrsA: agree

She probably built it up in her mind that you would be really mad/upset and had all these thoughts on what she was going to say that when you told her its ok she may have even been disappointed that you weren’t more upset about it.

Post # 7
82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

She might just be thinking that you might be upset even if you say you aren’t, or she’s probably worried about her dropping out of the bridal party ruining your friendship. I say just assure her that you aren’t upset, and let her know that you completelyunderstand her situation and that you appreciate her honesty with you.

Post # 8
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Pupperoni:Nope… but I wouldn’t bring it up again. Just keep checking in with her to see how she’s doing and don’t talk wedding stuff. I know you’re busy with your wedding, but spending some time making sure the friendship stays solid is worth the investment.

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