Post # 1
I’m writing this post because I had a bridesmaid call me up explaining that she cannot be a part of my wedding party. She was freaking out and thought that I would end the friendship over this. The problem? I am absolutely ok with it! She has had a lot of stuff going on and I completely understand her feelings and I knew it was coming. However, she keeps calling and asking if I am upset yet. I really want to just move on and convince her that I’m not upset at all. Shes still coming to my wedding, she is one of my best friends, and I’m honored to be her friend during her time of crisis. How can I handle this?
Post # 3
I would tell her exactly what you wrote above
“Shes still coming to my wedding, she is one of my best friends, and I’m honored to be her friend during her time of crisis.”
and Kudos for being such a good friend to her!
Post # 4
Does she live near you? Can you take her out to lunch or dinner and just catch up and chat? Show her you still care about her and what’s going on in her life. Let her know that your friendship is more important than one day of her standing next to you.
If she lives far away, maybe send her a little care package and a note reminding her that friendship lasts a lifetime… being a bridesmaid only a day. You care more about the friendship and making sure she’s ok, then making her stand up next to you.
Post # 5
@KatNYC2011: I also said listen, we have plenty of time before the wedding. If you decide the day of that you want to stand up with me, I have no problem with that. Do you think that put extra pressure on her?
Post # 6
She probably built it up in her mind that you would be really mad/upset and had all these thoughts on what she was going to say that when you told her its ok she may have even been disappointed that you weren’t more upset about it.
Post # 7
She might just be thinking that you might be upset even if you say you aren’t, or she’s probably worried about her dropping out of the bridal party ruining your friendship. I say just assure her that you aren’t upset, and let her know that you completelyunderstand her situation and that you appreciate her honesty with you.
Post # 8
@Pupperoni:Nope… but I wouldn’t bring it up again. Just keep checking in with her to see how she’s doing and don’t talk wedding stuff. I know you’re busy with your wedding, but spending some time making sure the friendship stays solid is worth the investment.