Post # 1
my wedding is in three weeks and i have a small bridal party (one maid of honor, two bridesmaid). one of my bridesmaid recently got engaged with the best man of the wedding. however, she is not the maid of honor but is insisting that she walks down the aisle with her man. is it wrong for me to ask them to follow the traditional walking down pattern?
Post # 3
its your wedding so do what you want to do, if its important for you to follow the order, then do it, it is not her wedding or in her place to be making demands
Post # 4
i guess my question is if there is some unwritten rule on if you’re engaged or married, you have to walk down the aisle together. would it matter if u didnt? its just like 30 steps after the wedding finishes to go down the aisle?
Post # 5
No rule that I’ve ever heard of! It is not necessary and I have been to weddings where married couples have been in the wedding and have not walked together. Tell her to get over it 🙂
Post # 6
I would suggest a compromise. Instead of having the groomsmen and bridesmaids walk down arm-in-arm, have them walk side-by-side. Or just intersperse them (bridesmaid, then groomsman, then bridesmaid). I know that if I was being told that I had to be escorted by another man when it wasn’t completely necessary, that I would be put-out. I don’t like getting escorted, PERIOD, though — unless it’s someone that I would be honored to have escorting me (my dad/my fiance).
Post # 7
I know that personally I am having some issues with the weddings I am in where I am having to walk down the aisle with someone other than my fiance—In one of the weddings I am actually walking down the aisle with the boyfriend of another of th bridesmaids…while my husband sits and watches. I know its not my place to say anything to the bride–and I think the bridesmaid you are dealing with is overstepping!-the situations I am in certainly makes me uncomfortable.
Since none of the bridesmaids in my wedding really know any of te groomsmen and the groomsme have girlfriends/wives and the bridesmaids have boyfriends/husbands I am having them all walk single file during the return so no one is uncomfortable.
Post # 8
I’ve never even heard of this being an issue. Who cares who you walk with for 30 steps, especially if they are there to celebrate the union of your friends just like you are? I find this to be a ridiculous demand, and probably more about not being the Maid/Matron of Honor when her fiance is the Bridesmaid or Best Man. Tell her to get over it.
Post # 9
I don’t think I would care in this situation, but I am trying to avoid it in my own wedding as I think it likely to cause drama for at least one of the couples involved. We have 2 couples, and to avoid any problems, I think I’m just going to have the girls walk down alone. To make them feel better about this, if they don’t like it, I’m planning on introducing them as couples into the reception.
Post # 10
Why not have your bridal party enter on their own? Guys followed by girls… and then when the exit, they can pair up and exit together – most weddings I’ve been to do this, or have the guys and girls enter together.
I don’t think it’s uncalled for to have her suggest this, as he is in the bridal party… but it’s really your call and up to you, and you can say no to her if you want.