Post # 1
So I recently gave my girls the go ahead to order their BM dresses. My future sister and law was there on the day I picked the dress and was trying dresses on with my sister. That day (two months ago) she was a size 22. When I called the store to make sure they had the right dress and color on file for me, the woman told me that my future sister in law had already ordered hers and told me she ordered a size 16.
In the 2 months since we picked the dress, I know she has not lost weight. She is not an active person but I know she wanted to loose weight for my wedding. But I was not expecting her to order a dress 3-4 sizes smaller. I feel like I shouldn’t say anything or it will just cause tension. Plus technically I shouldn’t know what size she ordered. The saleswoman volunteered that information to me. Do I need to just let this go and hope she fits into the dress? The dresses will be in the first week of July, so if she doesn’t fit, that gives her 3 months to figure something out. Help! What would you Bees do?
Post # 3
Ugh. As someone who has been dealing with weight issues all my life that’s a major pet peeve of mine. Sorry you’re dealing with this. I would NOT say anything though. Hopefully they seamstresses will be able to do something if necessary.
Post # 4
@Ali-oop: you cant say anything outright- if you want to drop a subtle hint you could ask her to recheck the if dress she ordered was correct… because someone else had an issue with sizing so you just want to make sure hers was OK.
Maybe get some girls together for alterations soon? The salespeople at the store I am sure have dealt with this before, let them tell her.
Post # 5
Let it go ’til July. If she just ordered it, maybe that’s the jumpstart she needs. Without talking to her, you don’t know what her weight-loss plans are. She knows what she ordered and she has a few months to work on it before the dresses even come in, then 3 more? If she’s really trying, then that is a good timeframe.
Post # 6
I am on the same boat. I have 2moh and 4 bridesmaids. One of my Moh decided to not get fitted and ordered her dress a size 6 because that’s what size she thinks she is. Now I know my Moh is bit bigger then me and will not fit in a 6 , I explained to her how wedding dresses and bridesmaid dresses run smaller. I told her to call and just get fitted for my peace of mind before they call her dress in. she never did and now it’s too late , so she either has 3options
1: buyvmore material for the dress when it comes in.
2: lose weight which she doesnt need to because she is perfect, I just know the dress is too small.
3: order a new dress
4: swap a bridesmaid with her that will fit in the dress.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
That’s a LOT of inches- in Dessy, that would be 7 inches off each measurement. I hope she knows what she’s doing.
I might ask her if she wants to work out with you, if you live close by. Like, call her up and ask if she wants to go for a hike, or a walk, or a bike ride because you think it would be fun to spend some time together. That way maybe you can help jump start whatever plans she may have
Post # 8
This might make me sound mean or insensitive but I would say something. Obviously it’s a big enough deal for the consultant to mention it. If that dress comes in and she hasn’t lost enough weight then she’s going to have to order a new dress…and pay for both. I would just politely mention it to her. Maybe suggest ordering 1-2 sizes smaller so it can give her motivation. She might react poorly but it’s better than having to deal with all the drama of getting a dress that won’t come close to fitting.
Post # 9
I wouldn’t say anything. When it comes July when she trys on the dress… let the seamstress figure it out. Encourage her to lose weight if you are that nervous and go exercise with her 🙂