Post # 1
so i have 3 of my cousins in my bridal party. The one is my Maid/Matron of Honor then i have the other 2 after her. My one cousin who is the 2nd Bridesmaid or Best Man hasnt been much of a help while my 3rd cousin who is my 3rd Bridesmaid or Best Man has driven up to my house many many times and is planning on doing just about everything for my shower and bachelorette party and has been a big help in the planning process. Now i know placement in the Bridal party isnt a big deal, but i want some way to show her how much i appreciate everything she has done but at the same time doing so without drama or problems (especially b/c the 2nd and 3rd Bridesmaid or Best Man are sisters). I feel that she has done as much work as my Maid/Matron of Honor and should be placed 2nd behind her.. can i have some suggestions on what to do?
Post # 3
When you’re doing your rehearsal, you just tell people the order they are walking in. She might not even think anything of it because she’ll also get to walk in first. Honestly, I’ve been in two weddings and didn’t think anything of where I was standing. I was just told “You are walking in at x time with x/alone” and that was that! Even easier if you have a planner or someone running the rehearsal because you just have them do it.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t worry about it too much. I based the order of my 5 girls on height. My Maid/Matron of Honor was the shortest, so I went from shortest to tallest. There are all sorts of reasons for the placement of our “girls”.
Post # 5
Mine are going in height order.. I really dont think they care either way.
Also you may be suprised that the BMs that seem to not be doing much now, will be the ones who go the xtra mile on the actual day of the wedding.
Post # 6
I agree with PPs. She probably has no idea what “order” she fell in the first place, much less if it changed. And it’s not something that should be made a big deal of. If it makes you feel better having “number three” switch with “number two,” then by all means do it! Secretly. 🙂
Post # 7
I would switch it if it makes you feel better, and put the non-helper at the end! haha…but if it messes up the “look” of everyone for example, if one girl is really tall and the other really short then i wouldnt mess with it. Maybe give her a special brooch or bracelet to wear the day of to show your appreciation.
Post # 8
thanks everyone! I dont think she will become a helper anytime soon lol..shes kind of all about herself but thats ok..i have 6 Bridesmaid or Best Man so i have a lot of help as it is, and she already knew where she was because she was pushing the issue of being my Maid/Matron of Honor but i chose my other cousin for that. Since my wedding is the different fall colors i have girls in certain places based on which color looks the best on them. but I did get some ideas reading your comments…the broach or bracelet is a good idea..or i could tell her that i switched them due to height/color issues! thanks again everyone!