Post # 1
So I have a bridesmaid who is a serial relationship girl. When we sent the STD’s out she was in a commited 1+ year relationship. The STD was addressed to her and him. This couple breaks up and so when I send out the invites I send the invite just to her as we had decided because of budget we could not invite plus ones for anyone not in relationship with someone. When she came to visit for her shower she told me she had just started seeing someone new, but I didn’t think anything of it because they had just started dating. She has just emailed me asking if her new boyfriend is invited. Bridesmaid & boyfriend live out of state so it’s not like I’ll have the chance to meet him prior to the wedding. What do I do hive?!
Post # 3
give your BP +1 for gods sake. You’re being rude if you don’t.
Post # 4
I know the feeling that you don’t necessarily want everyone’s “flavour of the month” boyfriend or girlfriend to be at you wedding, but since she is a BM and she has to travel – I really think you need to let her bring a date.
Post # 5
I am giving all people in the wedding party a +1 even if they just want to bring a friend because being in a wedding party is a lot of work. Even if you’ve never met him and he might not last more than a few months I would still invite him because she is traveling from out of state. Traveling alone to a wedding probably sucks regardless of whether you’re single or in a relationship, so I would want my friend (who I love) to have company.
Sure the BP is busy in the morning getting ready and busy after the ceremony with pictures, but you will not be with them the whole night (because there’s a bazillion other people you need to talk to) so it’s nice to let them have someone to hang out with.
Post # 6
It’s courteous to extend a “+1” to all wedding party members, as well as any adults who need to travel to be there. So yes, on both counts, she should be able to bring someone.
Post # 7
I would give her the plus one. Your bridal party are doing a lot for you and your wedding. The fact that you haven’t met him will make little or no difference to you at the wedding. You will be too busy having fun with the people you do know.
Post # 8
I have found as it gets closer that I care less and less about +1s and numbers and stuff. You are going to be fine either way, just let your BM bring someone if she wants to. I have also found that way less people brought +1s then I expected, so the random additions are completely fine.
Post # 9
@DaneLady: <— This
If it were any other guest, I would say you don’t have to invite the new BF since they started dating after the invites when out. BUT since she’s your BM AND she has to travel out of state, you need to let her bring her new BF. She’s doing you a huge favor by standing up for you and supporting you on your big day – the least you can do is let her bring a date.
Post # 10
I’d let her bring whoever she’d like. I would feel a little put off if someone asked me to be a bridesmaid but I wasn’t allowed to bring a date. It’s the nice thing to do
ETA – waallow elbowed to bring a date *just because the bride hadn’t met him yet*
Post # 11
Bridal party especially should always get a +1.
Post # 12
I think it’s important for BP member to have dates. Invite him.
Post # 13
We did not invite a few people’s +1s for this reason, but almost everyone in the BP got one (then again, those who did are all married). One of the two who did not is only 16, and the other is single and flying in from out of town and didn’t want to bring some rando to our wedding–not sure what kind of non-partner person would want to pay to fly to another state for a stranger’s wedding anyway.
Post # 14
@VtoM: Give her the plus one.
Post # 15
She’s bridal party and she’s traveling from out of state. Give her a plus one.
Post # 16
Well, she’s in a relationship so why would you treat that any differently than everyone else who is in a relationship that you allowed to have a +1? It’s not your place to try and determine whether her relationship is valid enough to deserve a +1, plus she is your bridesmaid, plus she is coming from out of the area. Yes you need to extend her the courtesy of the +1.