(Closed) Bridesmaid posted dress on Facebook before wedding…

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Would you consider bridesmaid posting wedding plans on Facebook okay?
    Yes : (76 votes)
    37 %
    No : (128 votes)
    63 %
  • Post # 3
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    951 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Unfortunately, it just sounds like something that should be forgiven and forgotten. Maybe it would have worked better if you had communicated the expectation that the dresses remain a surprise. I’m sure she did not do it with any negative intent, was just excited about picking the dress. You can’t really be upset with her when you weren’t clear about your wishes on keeping the dresses a secret. Try to move past it and don’t hold it against her, but let your BMs know in future to keep all wedding plans private!

    Post # 4
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    2872 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Ugh I’d be super annoyed.  Personally, I think its really weird that she wore the BM dress BEFORE your wedding has even happened!! 🙁 I’d be really upset, but given that she wore it, I’m not surprised that she then posted the pics on facebook.  However, there’s really nothing you can do about it now.  People honestly probably won’t even connect the two.

    Post # 5
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    1500 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I wouldn’t mind a BM posting her dress on facebook. If it was the bride’s dress, however, that wouldn’t be cool.

    Post # 8
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    345 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @Beeloved86: I would be livid. But I’ve laid out clear expectations that nothing goes on social media. I  am not very active on FB etc anyways, FH doesn’t even have one. I have to monitor what gets shared for security reasons, but even without that I want everything to remain a surprise. Why your bm wouldn’t think of that on her own, I have no idea. It seems like she is being spiteful, and if I were you I would cut her out of the planning except for necessities. She has as much power as you give her. And yes you can ask her to take the picture down. That is not “bridezilla” at all. And even if it is, who cares? Some people have no concept of privacy. Would you ask your florist to take down pictures of your arrangment mockups if she posted them on her page and tagged you in them? Personally, I would get a new florist. 

     

     

     

    Post # 9
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    1042 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @Beeloved86:  I’m so confused.  If she hates the dress, why did she post it on FB?  I actually don’t think it’s a big deal.  No one will care what your BM dresses looked like on your wedding day except for you.  The fact that it’s a “surprise” will not be important to anyone else except you.  Just get over it and let them do whatever they want with a dress that (I assume) they paid for.

    Post # 10
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    3403 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    No, definitely not okay. I would be pretty darn unhappy. I feel like if you give everything away before the wedding, then that’s the point? But if I were in your shoes I would forgive and forget, just mention that you don’t find it appropriate.

    Post # 11
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    2128 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Baby #2 due Sep 2017

    @Bazingau:  Totally agree with you on this.

    Post # 12
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    5408 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I think that’s in really poor taste on her part. Unfortunately, some people are clueless. 

    Post # 15
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    633 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    It’s really hard to find out that people you care about are using poor judgment and hurting you. I’m sorry about that! but….She’s 19. End of discussion. 

    Post # 16
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    1881 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I think it’s fine… it’s not like she posted YOUR dress.

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