(Closed) bridesmaid problem

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

urgh im sorry….that sucks. there really isnt much you can do about it now since your wedding is so close…..but i would suggest telling her how you feel. not that it would matter or help any…but maybe if you share with her how she is hurting your feelings it will cause her to change….invite her to a dinner just you and her. she is prob still upset about being demoted.

Post # 4
1962 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Have you tried to sit down and talk with her one on one in a neutral setting about how much she is hurting you? Maybe she has a reason she can’t take the time off from work for the rehearsal. She might not be able to afford it and is embarrassed enough not to say why she can’t take the time off. If she’s not taking the time off for any good reason I would be ticked off. You will never know until you sit down and try to air things out though. Getting things off of your chest before your big day should help relieve a lot of stress over this.

Post # 5
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Ugh that really sucks.  The rehearsal dinner isn’t really optional, in my opinion, but maybe they won’t let her take off work?  As opposed to her just not caring?  I’ve felt this way about one or two of the girls in my bridal party, and it has definitely hurt my feelings, but I try to keep in perspective that their lives do not revolve around my wedding.  I understand that it hurts though when someone that you are so close to acts like it isn’t important at all…

Post # 7
1526 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Is having an even number on each side that important to you?  I have been to several wedding where there weren’t an equal number of bridesmaids and groomsmen and it looked perfectly fine.  When you look at pictures of your wedding don’t you want to see the people who are there for you and supportive of you?  I feel like I would always be resentful when I saw that particular bridesmaid in pictures knowing how much she hurt me.  

Post # 8
630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@RahlyRah: yeah, i was gonna say, there is no problem not having equal sides if you just don’t want her in the wedding anymore! unless that really bothers you, not having equal sides

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