Post # 1
Like i said in the earlier post of my bridesmaids, i just found out the shoe cost of the shoes i want them to wear. They are $95. And their dresses are homemade by my very own aunt, which the fabric for them only cost about $30. My problem is i feel like i would be asking them to pay too much for the outfit and that they would complain that the price of the shoes are way to high.. i dont know what to do. I asked on of my bridesmaids and she said that its my wedding and they still have a couple of months to save up to afford the shoes! and that im saving them a ton a money by my aunt making the dresses…
What is/was your total cost for the BM’s outfit?
Were they okay with the price and saw it reasonably? Or did they complain and refuse to buy it?
How should i approach them about the price of the shoes?
( FYI: i wanted everyone to be wearing converse )
Post # 3
I would say considering that most Bm dresses cost 100+ and their SHOES cost 30+ I am sure you are fine. It’s just backwards from “normal” :). Must be some fancy converse for that price!
Post # 4
I think this is a social circle/personal circumstance question. The dresses my BMs are wearing are more than the total cost of what you’re quoting, but given where we live, our circumstances, our ages, etc. they were all on-board. For some people a $100 dress is a bargain, for others it’s asking a lot. There’s no right answer for the general population, you have to think about the girls themselves.
It’s fabulous that your aunt is making the dresses. I would think that because of it your girls will be more likely to accept your shoe request…but without knowing more about them, it’s impossible to say.
Post # 5
If I were a bridesmaid and told to buy $95.00 shoes, I’d be a bit miffed. But, I’m a girl who is not into shoes and tries to spend no more than $40.00 on name brand sneakers. And I just don’t think shoes are worth that price. No offense. Do you have alternatives if one if your ladies can’t afford that?
I’m giving my BMs a choice of 20 dresses to choose from and they’re no more than $159.00, and the cheapest, is (if I recall correctly) $75.00. For the shoes, I’m just asking for flats in palimino or cream. They can chose any type, as long as it fits those two guidelines, so they have free choice of what they want to spend. I really, really, really, don’t want my BMs to spend a lot of money. It’s something that just doesn’t sit well with me.
Post # 6
I asked my BM’s individually, and privately, what THEIR budget was before we looked at anything. Some of my friends are working good paying jobs, and others are still in college. Either way, it’s none of my business how my adult friends buget their money, so I asked them what they were comfortable spending first.
Post # 7
I have always gotten the impression from this and otehr wedding forums that if the bride is requiring BM’s to wear a particular shoe that the bride should pay for them.
I may have gotten that wrong though.
But where I come from you wold never ask a BM to pay for a dress for your wedding let alone a $95 pair of shoes.