Post # 1
I have a major dilemma and have no idea what to do. I lost my two closest friend 6 months before i got engaged. We were friends for 6 years and they were both going to be bridesmaids in my wedding. A stupid fight broke all three of us apart, and one of them have been arrested several times since then. I dont have very many other friends since we were so close and hung out with no one but each other.
My maid of honor lives 6 hours away. Shes in school and won’t be able to participate in hardly any activitres such as showers and parties. she’ll only be here the day of the wedding, since she’ll be traveling to my place the day before.
I asked one of my friends to be a bridesmaid and she said she doesnt know because of school and she doesnt think she could afford it anyway. I highly doubt she’ll end up saying she will be a bridesmaid.
I have another friend that i’m not real close too, but we talk occasionally and get together sometimes. We dont know to-to much about each other, just the basics. I was thinking about asking her to be a bridesmaid, thinking maybe we’ll get closer over the next 11 months.
I really really really don’t want to be standing alone up there with no girls. My maid of honor will be there, but not for any other festivites. i want at least one bridesmaid but just dont know what to do. what do you think??
Post # 3
I understand where you’re coming from. I just don’t have a lot of friends. But I am pretty well acquainted with some off my fiancé’s best friends’ girlfriends & I’ve considered asking 2 of them. I have one friend that I was close to in high school, and she said yes (Although I had only talked to her here & there on Facebook.) She said she’d be honored.
And what about family? I’m the only girl unfortunately, so it wasn’t an option for me, but maybe you’ll have some luck.
Post # 4
That sounds like me, I have more male friends then I did female friends and because of that I only had 2 bridesmaids and one maid of honor…..the MOH was my sister and one BM was my husbands sister and the other was my BF in highschool. Needless to say I didn’t have too many close personal friends standing with me…but you know what? It didn’t matter. I wanted a small’ish wedding to begin with and it turned out perfect for me. For your friends though, if yall had a falling out then I can’t say whether or not to invite them, it’s really up to you on how big that argument was. You don’t have to have bridesmaids….it’s not about them, it’s about you darlin’. It’s your wedding, NO ONE is going to care how many bridesmaids you have, you want those you care about standing with you and if it’s just the one person then that’s great. It’s meaningful to you, not to anyone else.
Post # 5
Thank you. I’ve considered a cousin, but she lives 14 hours away. Everyone is so far away. I’m worried my maid of honor will bail and i’ll have absolutley no one. I’m so scared and feel so alone. My FI sister will be almost 11 the day of the wedding, so she will be a junior bridesmaid, but not a REAL bridesmaid.
Post # 6
@futuremrsbc: Hi, Isn’t this the perfect situation for you and your old friends to resolve the past issues? I think you should try to initiate a resolution. They’ll understand!
Post # 7
I agree with the person who said you and your friends shoulf try to resolve your issues? Is it beyond being able to be resolved?
Post # 8
Maybe, as others have stated, you could resolve your issues. Otherwise, and maybe this is just me, but I don’t really see the big deal abotu standing up there “alone.” I’m kind of going through the same thing, and I would think that the maids are supposed to be there to give you support leading up to that day. However, I gave all of my maids a really easy job of just showing up, not throwing me any parties, and just wearing dresses they can get from target or something else and they can wear again after the wedding. Well now i’m in a position where none of them cared up until now (4 months before the wedding) and one of my girls is giving me crap everyday and trying to nit pick all of my choices and bring me down, and one of my girls just backed out. I was seriously debating trying to get rid of the whole party (the remaining 3) and only be standing up there with my FI and his 8 GROOMSMEN! Talk about different! But, for trying to keep the peace, I am going to try to ignore my “friend” who is being a pain. If i had it to do all over, I would have picked a close family friend, an older female friend, and an aunt for the lineup. I now don’t want to replace my friend who dropped out and make her feel like she has indeed been replaced. I think these girls are just raking me over the coals… and I dont even care anymore!
Post # 9
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
I think that if you live your day to day life with not that many friends, you should be fine without bridesmaids. After all, your BEST friend, your fiance, will be up there with you, and that’s the only one that matters. People put too much emphasis on having bridesmaids to support you, when really all of your wedding guests are there to support do just that.