Post # 1
So I recently started having regrets on who I chose to have in my bridal party, Oh course I have my best friend and I am also having my sister but the it is I chose another girl who I wish I hadn’t…She is married to my FI best friend practically his brother at this point. I knew her from way back in the day I mean like I was 9 she was 18 year never friends with her back then…
When my FI started dating it we hung out with them every weekend and did so for a couple months after we got engaged… I asked her because I knew how close he was to both of them and since he was having my little brother in as a groomsmen thought it would be nice to have her as well. But not I am regretting it hasn’t done much with them in months and she doesn’t ever call or return calls. She did get her dress right away and that asked about hair in shoe but that is the last I heard from her that was in February! I could tell that one of my girl friends is disappointed that I didn’t ask her.
Is it too late to do so two months to the wedding but she could get the dress easy? What should I do about the bum bridesmaid?
Post # 3
Might be – that’s why I think it’s a bit silly to ask so far out in advance. Just try to make the best of it and see if she changes as you get closer to the date.
Post # 4
I wish there would be an “after the fact” thread where you ladies could post what you learned about bridesmaids… number of… dealing with… etc. I sometimes feel that people think early on, the more the merrier, and end up with a lot of drama because of problems they didn’t anticipate.
Post # 5
I’m in a similar situation where I didn’t know anything about weddings so I was so wrapped up in everything that I didn’t stop to think about everything before I made my decision. I picked my sisters and my bff like you, but now I’m also stuck with my two other friends who have started drifting and I feel like we probably won’t even be friends by the time the wedding rolls around. I don’t really have much advice because I’m just as confused as to what to do as you are, but I feel like if the wedding is two months away then it might be best in your situation to just leave things the way they are. It would cause too much drama to kick her out and it would make things awkward in the future because obviously you guys will still end up seeing each other. As for your other friend, rather than adding her as a last minute BM, could you have her do something else thats important for the wedding, like a reading or something? I hope everything works out for you!
Post # 6
You can’t kick her out. Other than not returning your calls, I didn’t read anything in the post that would be considered bad and warrant that… She bought the dress and arranged for make up and shoes… what else is there that she’s required to do?
I also wouldn’t ask someone a month before the wedding to be a BM…. She’ll know it was a last minute pity invite.