(Closed) bridesmaid shoe matching my shoes

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

well since they are different colors and i am assuming u will be wearing a long dress. I wouldn’t care so much. No one is really gonna look at the bm shoes…if u are concerned about that, or u want ur own shoes ;)…i dont think its such a big deal, except the pictures,,,,but everyone will look at your face, hair and the dress  of course so the shoes dont really matter ….

Post # 4
1 posts
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with KIKI25.  You shouldn’t worry about it.   Believe me no one will be looking at her shoes and comparing them against yours.  In addition, your guests will be focused more on the total package (dress, glow, smile) than they will be on your shoes. 

Post # 5
5494 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

the logical side of me says no one will even notice that she has the same shoes.  but the princess side of me says that I want everything on the wedding day to be extra special and someone else having the same shoes does not = extra special.  So I totally understand where you are coming from.  In the end I would probably just let it go.

Post # 6
7296 posts
Busy Beekeeper

does she know?  i think if i was a Bridesmaid or Best Man and found out i chose the same shoes as the bride, i would look for new shoes!

you could be nice about it and say something like this:

“hey nice shoes, i have the exact same ones that i got for the wedding!  would it be crazy to ask you to find any pair but those? if you don’t want to, then that’s cool too”

Post # 7
785 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

One of my bridesmaids is wearing the exact shoe as me, down to the color (white).

It bothered me a bit at first, but then I got over it.  First, it really doesn’t matter especially because no one will even be able to see my shoes (long dress).  Second, the shoes were a great price and they are really, really comfortable, especially for heels.  She really wanted them because she knew she’d wear them over and over because of how cute and comfortable they are!

So I let it go!  We will be cute and matching.  And we both have a fantastic pair of shoes that can be re-worn again and again!

Post # 8
1920 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I think considering they are different colors it really doesn’t matter. And like PP said people really don’t see your shoes. If i was a Bridesmaid or Best Man I would think you were a bit of a zilla if you asked me to return my shoes. Shoes are not important in the grand scheme of a wedding.

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