Post # 1
will anyone notice if my 6 bms shoes dont match? they’re wearing long blue satin gowns. i’m of the camp that noone cares but the girl wearing them, but Fiance thinks I should at least specify a color if not the exact shoe. (and what if he’s right & they all pick ugly shoes? i doubt it but WHAT IF?!) also, wouldnt it be cute if there was a shot of all the girls wearing their matching dresses holding up their skirt a bit to reveal their fun & personal shoe choices?
what did you do? all same shoe, all same color, or "you’re an adult & can choose your own shoe"
Post # 3
I’m asking my girls to wear silver strappy shoes, and then they can go out and pick the style.
Post # 4
For long dresses I think it looks totally fine to have them wear whatever. I’m being a little bridezilla on this one and having my bridesmaids wear the same shoes, only because their dresses are tea length… I guess I think at that length, the shoe is so much a part of the overall look, they really should be matching. Or maybe I’m just a tad psycho 🙂
Post # 5
Go with your instincts, let them pick the shoes. If one of them has particularly horrible/wild taste, maybe suggest a shopping outing with her and go "OMG THESE SHOES WOULD BE PERFECT WITH THE Bridesmaid or Best Man DRESS" or something?
Particularly if they’re full-length dresses, it shouldn’t be much of an issue no matter what they pick. I’m really really hoping my girls all pick bright shoes in different colours – I can’t choose one colour for myself yet so then we’ll have lots of hot shoes around. (Can you tell I’m a shoe-girl?) And the photo idea’s totally cute 🙂
I think it’s sweet that your FH cares about it though! Mine would wear sneakers to the wedding if I let him (and I still may – he hates "proper" shoes so much!)
Post # 6
- Wedding: May 2008 - United Methodist Cathedral & historic downtown hotel in Cleveland
I’m letting the ladies pick their own shoes (tea length dresses.) They are all grown women, and I trust their styles. (You can check out one of my earlier posts about my thoughts on the matter.)
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2007 - Rosary Chapel & Monterey Marriott, Monterey, CA
I believe shoes are a real personal choice that affects the enjoyment of your entire time in them… and asked my girls to choose gold strappy sandals and I can’t even begin to remember what each one looked like on the day of… obviously it wasn’t distracting.
I just remembered the sorority rush days when 120 of us had to wear the same shoes, and how many people would complain that they didn’t fit them, even on flip flop days! And those 10 hours would turn into pure misery…
Post # 8
My BM’s are picking their own shoes. They also picked out their own dresses in a specified color.
Post # 9
My girls wore long dresses and I just specified the color; one of my friends that is getting married this fall is doing the same. A lot of my girls already owned that color shoe, so why should they go out and buy another pair? Also, this allowed them to have as much of a heel as they wanted (several bought shoes with a heel height so they wouldn’t need to get their dress hemmed). In one wedding I was in, we wore matching tea length dresses with matching shoes… I completely understand the bride’s idea of matching everything, and she did a great job at finding things inexpensively… but the shoes were really really uncomfortable for me and I had to take them off at the reception. Just some thoughts… I’d say that it’s your wedding and you can do whatever you like!