Post # 1
So are you making your girls wear all the same shoes? Same color? Same style? Or are they just wearing whatever they want?
I am having long purple gowns and since the shoes aren’t really going to be visible most the time I told them to wear either silver or black open toe shoes and then at the reception they can change into whatever they want.
What are you planning to do?
Post # 3
Your idea is perfect. There will be some cohesion with style and color. I’m sure they appreicate you not making them all buy matching shoes and letting them change at the reception. I would love to be your BM. 🙂
I’m giving my girls guidelines – black, strappy sandal, low to mid-heel. No extra bling or colors. This way they can spend whatever they want and get something comfortable.
I have been a BM twice where we had to have matching shoes. The first, the girls all got to pick out the shoes (well there were 7 of us, so majority ruled) and I ended up paying $80 for a pair I could never wear again (and I didn’t have a lot of money at the time). The second time the bride’s sister picked out the shoes on her own, bought them for everyone (were incredibly cheap and you could tell), then dyed them herself. Mine were 2 sizes too big and the dye rubbed off all over my feet. Oh and they were ugly and not comfortable. Bad idea.
Post # 4
My girls are wearing knee length chocolate colour dresses. I told them that I think nude colour would look nice and just choose whichever nude shoes they want and feel good in. If they choose the smae it’s ok, if they choose different it’s ok too.
Not every girl likes the same style of shoes and what works for one does not for another.
I like how mismatched shoes like on the bridal party 🙂
Post # 5
My girls all wore the same BM dress, but I let them choose their style shoe. I just said brown. Two of them wore very high strappy heels and the other one wore lower closed heels. Nothing looked weird about it even though one stuck out.
Post # 6
My girls are also wearing long, dark purple dresses. I asked them to wear whatever silver shoes they wanted. You’ll barely even see their feet in the dresses.
Post # 7
@SoontobeMrsAM: Thank GOD you are letting your girls choose. I’ve been in 2 weddings so far – one, we could wear any black shoe out there, which was great, since I already had a fabulous par. The next one.. let’s just say they went straight to the “donate” bag. They were cheap, horribly uncomfortable, and we all had to wear the same ones. Not trying to sound like a snob, but the other bridesmaids really pressured the bride into picking what they wanted. The did it with the dress and the shoes. I felt so bad for my friend.
So, for my wedding, I’m pretty sure all 3 ladies will want to wear black shoes, since it goes the best, but I really could care less as long as they’re nice (aka not snow boots!)
Post # 8
I let my girls wear whatever shoes they wanted as long as they were black and wedding-appropriate (basically meaning not flip flops or boots!).
Post # 9
My bridesmaids’ dresses are knee length. They are all wearing yellow shoes (probably in different shades), in whatever style they want. I figured, I’m not the one wearing the shoes, so I wanted them to be comfortable. Oh, and they were spread out all over the globe, so it was easier to do that.
I was a bridesmaid last june, and we wore knee length light purple dresses. The bride requested metallic shoes, I wore silver, and it looked really good.
Post # 10
if we go with the purple dresses they’ve currently agreed on, then they’ll do silver shoes of their choice. the dresses are floor length anyway, so nobody will see the shoes. if things change, we’ll figure it out when the time comes. i don’t really care about their shoes, to be honest. i’d just prefer they both wear the same color shoes.
Post # 11
I couldn’t care less what shoes my girls wear. They can wear whatever they want.
Post # 12
I had a lot of angst over this issue. My girls are wearing burgundy, knee length/above knee dresses (different styles), and range in height from 5’2″ to 6’0″. I never considered them all wearing the same shoes for height/shoe size and also financial reasons. First I told them to all wear black shoes, but then I said, wear whatever shoes you want. I trust them to wear appropriately dressy shoes in a neutral-ish color. I hope I’m right!
Post # 13
i let my girls pick their own shoes. i just told them to get something silver or off-white and gave them some examples of some styles i liked (the only thing i told them not to get were booties or gladiator-type heels). they all already happened to have silver strappy heels, so it worked out well 🙂
Post # 14
My BMs are in long, eggplant chiffon gowns (different styles). I am thinking of just telling them black shoes, but whatever they want– I want them to be comfortable and their shoes are not a big deal (esp under long dresses!).
I also don’t care if they want to change their shoes at the reception. I am 99.5% sure that my wedding heels will not last all night.
Post # 15
I said black or silver, and please no wedges. They picked their own (they also picked their own jewelry and hairstyle, and I also was fine with them picking their own dress, though they picked the same one, though one had it hemmed to the knee). At the reception, my MOH changed into other shoes. When I was MOH in my MOH’s wedding, she had us buy shoes. It was a floor length dress, so you couldn’t see them. But they were very uncomfortable, so I took them off for dancing. And since the dress was hemmed to the shoe length, I had to hold up the dress all night. Not fun.