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I'm letting my BMs pick their own silver shoes (they are all wearing the same dress too). My BMs all have very different tastes in shoes so I didn't want to force them all to buy something they didn't like. I did a lot of searching through wedding blogs and saw that it's really not noticeable when the girls wear different shoes.
All of my BM's are going to have different shoes, I rather they be comfortable and honestly no one is really going to be looking at their shoes. So sure let them be different
Thank you, that helps a lot to hear that other people are doing a similar thing! I want them to be comfortable the only thing that had me questioning is my mom is very traditional and therefore she had the thought that all the shoes needed to be the same!
But it sounds like it is hardly noticable and people will be much happier being able to pick out their own shoes!
Thanks again! :)
Not to sound rude or anything....but your guests aren't going to care. No one will notice.
Once in my cousins wedding she freaked out bc her FSIL "forgot" to get shoes that matched the rest of us and ended up with a pair of black pumps with a champange dress...no one even noticed. You couldn't even tell in the pictures.
i am also letting them pick out their own shoes. i only gave them the guidlines of they had to be silver and nothing too too high. i know my sister is wearing flats and the other girls are wearing heels. to me it's really not that important. i want them all to be comfortable. and they didn't tell me what kind of shoes to wear, so why should i? lol
My BMs all chose their own shoes as well.
1. It helps to reduce costs (if they already have something that works) or they at least get to buy a style that they like
2. Everyone can have their own personality (within reason) in their shoes
3. Fit issues don't come up (I was in a friend's wedding where we all purchased the same shoes by simply emailing the bride our size. Come wedding day, mine were WAY too wide and wouldn't really stay on)
4. No one really notices them and your ladies will probably take off their shoes or change into flats for the reception anyway
Yep, all my girls had the same dress and each wore whatever gold shoe they wanted.
This pic w/ my husband actually shows off their different shoes better then the one with me :)
YEP
I'd rather they pick the shoes (I'll specify color only). I'd rather they pick it so they don't complain and whine the whole day their feet hurt becasue I picked amazing (yet uncomfortable) shoes.
@Ms Sassy: You are not being rude, that is a great point! No one is going to care... it's so funny how we all probably stress about little details and in the end no one notices the little details!
Thanks for your input! :)
I definitely think I am going to specify black shoes but other than that let the girls pick the shoes they feel comfortable in.
@Laura Elizabeth: My parents are very traditional too so I know how you feel. It took my mom a while to finally accept that my girls are wearing short dresses!
Mine are all going to pick and wear their own black shoes. I think it will look fine!
@ninerz113: Thanks that is good to hear! I think it will take my mom time but she will eventually realize that no one is going to pay attention to the shoes and the pictures will look just fine!:)
Yep, I said "decide what color you want amongst yourselves, then go buy some.. if you want the same ones cool, it you want to wear something you already have thats fine as long as they're the same color". They chose beige (cornflower blue dresses) patent leather, some of them already owned them, some are going out to buy some.. they match almost everything so thats good!
My BMs are all wearing their own shoes. I just sent them the color I'd like the shoe to be and example of styles... and told them to wear anything that closely resembled the pics I sent
All my girls are picking their own shoes, with my approval. They have the same fabric (seersucker green) but different styles of dresses. I think it'll look great and let the bridesmaids be themselves!
I told my bridesmaids to get silver shoes to go with their raspberry dresses. My FSIL was worried because the dresses are short and mentioned it a few times but it is one less thing I have to think about and I want my girls to get shoes they will wear again and are comfortable. I did find a pair I liked with a lower heel and sent them as an option just to help my girls out.
All my bridesmaids already owned gold toned/metallic shoes, so that's what we went with. Honestly, I love my stylish bridesmaids and they picked better footwear that suit their styles way better than I could've, and we got a cool photo too!
I'm doing the same thing! I picked out the dress and they can pick out their own black shoes...I don't want to micro-manage and if you are ok with it than go for it! That way they'll all be able to incoorporate in their personal style and be comfortable! : )
That is what I'm doing. They are wearing black dresses and I told them all to wear black shoes. The only thing I said is no flip flops for the ceremony, once we get to the reception I do not care!
I was in a wedding and we all had burgandy shoes and all just wore black shoes. This worked well as I was on a tight budget then and buying shoes wasn't an option, so I wore onces I already had.
Definately! I just gave my BMs the boundaries of black or silver heels. It was much cheaper and easier since most girls have those colors already and don't have to buy new ones.
Personally, I hate matchy matchy shoes, I think it's nice you will let the girls pick their own in a similar colour and style :) That's the best way to go I think! It looks really nice afterwards too and your girls will be comfortable, which is most important.
I didnt even tell them a color, they got their dresses and the rest was up to them... they had quite the variety too:
mine are picking their own. it's just 2 of them, and they are wearing matching cocktail length dresses. I was a little concerned about it considering the dreses are short and the shoes will be very visible. but I told them gold or cream/champagne colored (to go with a navy dress) and I sent them links of like 3 examples (to show color, not really style), and my sister/MOH decided to get one of those three. the other bridesmaid hasn't picked hers yet, so for all i know she'll end up getting the same pair. or she'll get something else. I told her which ones the MOH got, so she knows that, but it's up to her!
do you happen to have a picture of your girls in the dress? I love the style for my wedding in september and their "royal purple" looks closer to blue in pictures - would love to see this color in a picture
@mariah2137: sure! here is one that i call "my sister-in-law is a giant and needed to get flats", something else to keep in mind when giving them advice on shoes if your heights range a lot! these dresses actually look almost black in photos, so not sure if that will help your vision since yours are more purple. in the end my MOH had metallic gold shoes like I told them to get, and my SIL had metallic taupe, really leaning more charcoal silver. not what i asked her to get but totally worked anyway! I think the more girls you have the easier it is to do mix and match too.
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Hello All!!
Please help. I was going to give my bridesmaids the option of picking their own shoes for the wedding. I was going to say all black and then let them each pick their own pair.
What are your thoughts? Can this work? They all of the same dress, will it look okay for them to have the different shoes?
Anyone have any pictures where people have done this??
Thanks so much!!!
My bridesmaid dresses are: Jasmine, Jasmine - Style # P49004 Color Bossanova which is an eggplant purple.