Post # 1
Please help. I was going to give my bridesmaids the option of picking their own shoes for the wedding. I was going to say all black and then let them each pick their own pair.
What are your thoughts? Can this work? They all of the same dress, will it look okay for them to have the different shoes?
Anyone have any pictures where people have done this??
Thanks so much!!!
My bridesmaid dresses are: Jasmine, Jasmine – Style # P49004 Color Bossanova which is an eggplant purple.
Post # 3
I’m letting my BMs pick their own silver shoes (they are all wearing the same dress too). My BMs all have very different tastes in shoes so I didn’t want to force them all to buy something they didn’t like. I did a lot of searching through wedding blogs and saw that it’s really not noticeable when the girls wear different shoes.
Post # 4
All of my BM’s are going to have different shoes, I rather they be comfortable and honestly no one is really going to be looking at their shoes. So sure let them be different
Post # 5
Thank you, that helps a lot to hear that other people are doing a similar thing! I want them to be comfortable the only thing that had me questioning is my mom is very traditional and therefore she had the thought that all the shoes needed to be the same!
But it sounds like it is hardly noticable and people will be much happier being able to pick out their own shoes!
Thanks again! 🙂
Post # 6
Not to sound rude or anything….but your guests aren’t going to care. No one will notice.
Once in my cousins wedding she freaked out bc her Future Sister-In-Law “forgot” to get shoes that matched the rest of us and ended up with a pair of black pumps with a champange dress…no one even noticed. You couldn’t even tell in the pictures.
Post # 7
i am also letting them pick out their own shoes. i only gave them the guidlines of they had to be silver and nothing too too high. i know my sister is wearing flats and the other girls are wearing heels. to me it’s really not that important. i want them all to be comfortable. and they didn’t tell me what kind of shoes to wear, so why should i? lol
Post # 8
My BMs all chose their own shoes as well.
1. It helps to reduce costs (if they already have something that works) or they at least get to buy a style that they like
2. Everyone can have their own personality (within reason) in their shoes
3. Fit issues don’t come up (I was in a friend’s wedding where we all purchased the same shoes by simply emailing the bride our size. Come wedding day, mine were WAY too wide and wouldn’t really stay on)
4. No one really notices them and your ladies will probably take off their shoes or change into flats for the reception anyway
Post # 9
Yep, all my girls had the same dress and each wore whatever gold shoe they wanted.
This pic w/ my husband actually shows off their different shoes better then the one with me 🙂
Post # 10
I’d rather they pick the shoes (I’ll specify color only). I’d rather they pick it so they don’t complain and whine the whole day their feet hurt becasue I picked amazing (yet uncomfortable) shoes.
Post # 11
@Ms Sassy: You are not being rude, that is a great point! No one is going to care… it’s so funny how we all probably stress about little details and in the end no one notices the little details!
Thanks for your input! 🙂
I definitely think I am going to specify black shoes but other than that let the girls pick the shoes they feel comfortable in.
Post # 12
@Laura Elizabeth: My parents are very traditional too so I know how you feel. It took my mom a while to finally accept that my girls are wearing short dresses!
Post # 13
Mine are all going to pick and wear their own black shoes. I think it will look fine!
Post # 14
@ninerz113: Thanks that is good to hear! I think it will take my mom time but she will eventually realize that no one is going to pay attention to the shoes and the pictures will look just fine!:)
Post # 15
Yep, I said “decide what color you want amongst yourselves, then go buy some.. if you want the same ones cool, it you want to wear something you already have thats fine as long as they’re the same color”. They chose beige (cornflower blue dresses) patent leather, some of them already owned them, some are going out to buy some.. they match almost everything so thats good!
Post # 16
My BMs are all wearing their own shoes. I just sent them the color I’d like the shoe to be and example of styles… and told them to wear anything that closely resembled the pics I sent