bridesmaid smoking weed at wedding.

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper

Get over it.

Post # 3
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Newbee

Is this normal behavior of them? Did you ask them to leave? 

 

I would never do such a thing, but I also do not smoke weed. I am sorry this happened to you. I am sure you wedding was wonderful and in the years to come hopefully you will not even remember such details. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee

wowwhatreally:  I would have kicked them out of my reception!! Sorry I am not much help, but i totally understand you feeling resentful!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

OP, Everyone can make their own choices (even illegal ones), but I think that kind of behavior at a wedding is disrespectful to you and your husband. You are entitled to feel how you feel, but you can choose how to deal with it in the future. Do you want to cling to resentment moving forward? Forgiveness isn’t for them- it’s for you. 

j_jaye:  That’s not really helpful.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper

HeartsandSparkles:  How is that not helpful. What can the OP do about this now but get over it? It didn’t ruin her wedding or destroy the world. It is none of her business what someone else choses to do. Clearly it didn’t bother the “plain clothed police officers” so why should it bother the OP?

Post # 7
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Helper bee

j_jaye:  You could worded your original comment a little more politely. True, it is none of her business what someone else chooses to do generally speaking, however this was at OP’s wedding reception which definitely makes it her business. 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Being resentful won’t make it magically not have happened.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

j_jaye:  It is completely her business what people do at her wedding, especially if people can start getting arrested. I can’t imagine anyone would want people being arrested at their wedding. And it is possible the police officers were bothered, but didn’t want to ruin OP’s wedding. Doing illegal drugs at a wedding is behavior that is completely disrespectful- do what you want in your own home but guests at a venue or someone else’s home should behave with respect. And disrespectful guests can, and do, ruin weddings.

Some people may not see it as a big deal, but a lot of people view weed as an illegal drug (since federally and in many states it is). If someone was doing meth, taking ectasy, shooting up heroin, or doing lines of cocaine at my wedding, I would be upset. But according to you, I guess that would be none of my business, right? 

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper

HeartsandSparkles:  And it is also perfectly legal in some places especially if they have a permit for it. The OP is just assuming that they don’t have one. As I said it is really none of the OP’s business. If she was so concerned she should have alerted the police officers, alerted the venue (as it is ultimately their responsibilitity) or called the authorities. Since the OP did none of those things she has no option but to get over it.

But let’s all tell the OP to stew on it because that is just so helpful 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

wowwhatreally:  wow I would be FURIOUS! I would have kicked them out asap that’s not okay! And seriously to the person who said get over it? It’s her wedding and she can dictate whether or not she wants people doing illegal DRUGS at her wedding..geez. I would have a talk with them and tell them how inappropriate and disrespectful that was. And definitely expect an apology. If they don’t then I guess you’ll have to move on cuz holding onto resentment will only hurt you, but if they don’t have the decency to apologize then I wouldn’t consider them very good friends…

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

kortizi0:  +1

j_jaye:  Legal or not (which you don’t actually know) it is really disrespectful and while guests can do whatever they want at home, they should be respectful at the wedding. Period. It’s a pretty offensive odor and not one I would want at my wedding. Smoking tobbacco is legal but I wouldn’t be happy if a guest was smoking in my livingroom. Alcohol is legal but it’s rude to get hammered and be a hot mess at a wedding. And if it was illegal? (and it ALWAYS is federally, BTW). You seem to have omitted any justification for that.

And if you actually read my post, you would see I never said anything about OP stewing on it. Seriously, give it a rest.

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2014

People get too uptight about weed. Seriously. It’s less dangerous and damaging than alcohol yet people still continue to get their panties in a bunch about it. It should have been legalised years ago!

I guess I kind of see why you’re annoyed….But to be honest, why are you dwelling on it instead of just forgetting it? Fair enough they should have been more discrete but you just got married and that’s much more important! Congratulations!

♥♡♥

Post # 14
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Helper bee

j_jaye:  It actually is the OP’s business since she clearly stated smoking pot is illegal where she had her wedding. If anyone from the venue would have seen them- the venue has the right to shut down the celebration and kick everyone out. If the police would have seen the potsmokers they probably would have been arrested or ticketed- then the police could have shut the party down. So of course the OP didn’t alert authorities to stop the potsmokers! You sound like a jerk with very little real-life experience. Smoking pot was irresponsible, disrespectful, and could have been a costly mistake ruining everyone’s night. Maybe when you actually grow up you’ll understand how your actions actually affect others- hopefully!

Post # 15
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Also noted that this is your first post? You must be pretty irate about it for your first post to pivot around this topic….

It’s negative though, tell us how fabulous the rest of your wedding was instead of dwelling on other people’s personal habits. It’s done now there’s no point letting it ruin your memories

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