Post # 1
Any tips on how to decide in what order the bridesmaids should stand? I have six bridesmaids and one Maid/Matron of Honor. Obviously my sis, Maid/Matron of Honor, is first but I don’t know how to arrange the other ladies without feeling like I’m ranking their friendship. I also have the issue of majorly varying heights (most are 5’3″ including MOH but my shortest is 5′ and the tallest is nearly 6’…) and I want it to look nice. Any suggestions?
Post # 3
I would place the shortest next to the maid of honor and work out to the tallest.
Post # 4
I second julies1949’s suggestion of going shortest to tallest. Another way would be to base it on how long you’ve known the person, but I like the height idea better.
Post # 5
I let mine sort it out. I did not care and didn’t want to have to choose. Someone volunteered to go first and then they just picked.
I wouldn’t stress out. I don’t think that a height order is the only way to go. I like more randomness in life.
Post # 6
I did it by height. shortest next to the Maid/Matron of Honor and worked out to the tallest.
Post # 7
I didn’t think about it as ranking but I guess I kind of did (or, more accurately, will) “rank” my girls. I’m having 2 Maid/Matron of Honor (co-MOH, as we’re calling them) One I have been friends with for 10+ years, the other for around 2 years now. The 10+ years Maid/Matron of Honor will stand closest to me. My other Bridesmaid or Best Man is Future Sister-In-Law, so she will be furthest from me.
ETA: Furthest from me because I will have my 2 Maid/Matron of Honor then my Bridesmaid or Best Man, not because I don’t love her 🙂
Post # 8
I am basing my order off of how long I’ve known them. I don’t think there is more than a few inches of height difference between everyone. Maybe tallest 5’7 and shortest 5’2.
Post # 9
I think @julies1949: idea of going shortest to tallest out from your Maid/Matron of Honor is a good one.
I hadn’t really thought about this since I only have 3 girls, but I do worry if the one who stands farthest from me will be offended in any way. Hmmm.
Post # 10
I agree with pp I will have my ladies in order by height from my MOH’s
Post # 11
Mine inadvertently became how long I’ve known them. My Maid/Matron of Honor I’ve known for 11-ish years, then my freshman year roommate from college, then my most likely Future Sister-In-Law (FBIL’s GF) who I’ve known for… 3 years?
Post # 12
I’m not 6′, but I’m taller than most girls, and I would be secretly kinda hurt if my friends stuck me at the very end just because of my height.
Post # 13
My Maid/Matron of Honor and sister is first… then my half sister… then my other two bridesmaids are in the order of how long I’ve known them 🙂
Post # 14
Thanks for the suggestions, ladies. I think going by height would be a really good idea and will look nice. The “let them sort it out themselves” idea sounds good too, though, then no worries for hurt feelings.
Post # 15
I was just thinking about this myself. I have 3 close friends and 2 FSILs as my bridesmaids. The funny thing is, I just assumed obviously my best friend (MOH) would stand by me and then my other 2 close friends and then 2 FSILs at the end….. and i just noticed that all 3 of my friends are blonde. and not just blonde – like BLONDE BLONDE – platinum. and my FSILs are both dark brunette. and I’m brunette (but lighter). would that look strange? Like I have them grouped by hair color?? The height thing doesn’t bother me so much. I’m 5’6, my tallest friend is 5’8 and my shortest is around 5’2, but now I’m wondering about their hair. Am i just being ridiculous at this point? I feel like there are too many things to think about and at the end of the day, none of it really matters!
I was in a wedding where there were 8 BMs and 1 junior Bridesmaid or Best Man and a flower girl – I was the Maid/Matron of Honor and all the other girls were just staggered in height – no particular order….. and when it came time to take formal pics, the photographer ended up moving us all around anyway to get everyone in the shot.
Post # 16
@Leeshie: I was just thinking about this today – I don’t want it to look like I’m dividing the blondes and the brunettes either… so much to think about. As of right now I’m leaning towards letting the girls sort out the order themselves, or else alternating dresses since they each chose their own.