Post # 1
So heres my story — i am 15 days from my wedding and my BM that is just planning her wedding for next year keeps sending me stuff about her and her wedding — i had asked her 3 weeks ago to stop it but she is still doing it!!! I under stand that she is excited but seriously i feel like she doesnt care at all any more!!!! Why cant i just have my time to enjoy this???
am i wrong to want to focus on my self for once in my life???
Post # 3
I would just ignore it if it’s seriously bothering you that bad, and remember that at some point, the other bridesmaids might have felt the same way at some point during your wedding planning.
Post # 4
If it’s emails, you can just ignore them. Don’t open them. But also remember…you were probably super excited when you first got engaged, and the only people who can really understand that excitement are those who are also getting married (or who have gone through the planning stages recently)…
Post # 5
I would just tell her that you’re happy that she’s engaged now, but the next couple of weeks will be super stressful and busy for you, so after your wedding you’ll have much more energy to help her with hers, and just keep the stuff she’s sending you and look at it after the wedding.
Post # 6
Maybe she’s thinking she’s bonding with you over wedding stuff. I doubt her intentions are bad, she’s just sharing and prob hoping you will too. I always try to think of what someone’s intentions are when something bothers me. I doubt she’s thinking “I am so stealing her thunder”.
Post # 7
@nki: It isn’t wrong to feel that way, but I agree that she probably isn’t being malicious. She is just super excited! Don’t worry though, your day will be all yours 🙂
Just don’t be mean to her about it, dont’ knock her down. She has every reason to be happy. I can see that you would be annoyed, but you’re also probably stressing, anxious, and excited for your own wedding, so it’s completely understandable.
Post # 8
It sounds like your friend is very excited and you should share in her excitement. The first few weeks are surreal once you are engaged. Understandably you are stressed with your own wedding, but since you are friends, share in hers and go out for lunch/dinner and let her talk about it. Give her an hour to show her that you really do care (she might be thinking you don’t after your comment to her). However; at the end of the lunch/dinner let her know you are getting so overwhelmed with your own wedding, you’d love her help. Maybe throwing in a cute comment, saying “it’ll be practice for your big day”
Post # 9
I don’t really see sending things to you about her wedding as thunder theft. She’s been there for you to share the excitement and thrill of being newly engaged….is returning the favor such a chore? I see that your getting marrieid this week, congratulations! Just don’t forget that you’ll have this one day, but it’s not worth hurting the people closest to you for.