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Maybe have a talk with her and let her know that the items you are having to purchase are a little more than you expected and you would like her to pay half of the costs. She may have just got her taxes and that may be why she has some extra money.
I can see why you are frustrated. I would not continue to pay for future things for her. Have you told her that you would pay for X things that have to do with the wedding in the future?
Telling her to pay for half is a good idea...
At the time (a few months ago) she was most stressed about the price of the dress. I told her I'd "pay for her". I never explicitly mentioned the dress, however, she could have also interpreted that to mean that I'd paid for EVERYTHING for her.
So far, I have only paid for the deposit of her dress so perhaps I could ask her to pay for the other half? And then explicity imply that she will be paying for any future costs her self...
I think that is a good idea. I would take her out to lunch if you can, and just bring it up in casual conversation.
Good idea. AND you did "pay for her" while she was having financial issues, and now it sounds like she's not.
I would be careful as to how to approach on her on this since you already said that you would pay for these things yourself. Maybe the next time she mentions some new shoes or something she buys, you can ask if you she can get the next thing on your list? Or if it would be possible to contribute to some of the purchased items like noritake22 suggested.
That is true, I have to be careful since I'll be going back on my word. However, things have come up in my life as well, I ended up not having a part-time job for the past few months which I was (kind of) counting on, so I do have reasons for asking her to pay. Although she had reasons before too... Money is such a touchy issue!
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My friend (who I asked to be a bridesmaid) confronted me about her hesitation (after accepting) because of financial constraints, etc. I offered to pay for a few things for her, because I didn't feel that she should just not be a bridesmaid because of money, but now she is buying somewhat "expensive" things for herself and I wonder why she didn't just save that money and pay for the bridesmaid stuff herself!
I do understand that her life (in terms of finance, quality of life, etc.) should not revolve around my wedding and being a bridesmaid-- but I still think she shouldn't be buying those things or at least NOT TELLING ME about it if I'm paying for things for her which will cost a lot out of MY pocket!
AHH!