- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I am sitting at home coughing and sneezing my way through a nasty cold, and having little else to do, I’m thinking nonstop about wedding stuff. Right now, I’m stuck on some concerns about my bridesmaids. Let me first say that I love my girls and no one is sabotaging or doing any of the awful things you some times read about on these boards. I’m just feeling stressed about some of the things I can’t control. I promise you, I am NOT a control freak – total opposite – but some things are making me a bit stressed.
Matron of Honor C: friends since we were 9, “childhood best friend.” She lives in VA (I live in PA, wedding in NY) and has been absolutely wonderful about reaching out to see if I need any help, encouraging, wonderful all around. She is also preggers with her second child and due 2 months before the wedding. I have absolutely no concerns about the pregnancy, and I’m thrilled for her. My only concern is that when I picked the Bmaid dresses in November, I asked everyone to get measured and she will have to estimate her size 2 months after she gives birth. To my knowldge, she has not put down her deposit and I don’t know if she ever got measured at all.
Maid of Honor K: Absolutely no concerns whatsoever, she is amazing.
Future Sister-In-Law Bridesmaid or Best Man E: Very sweetly offered to paint a wedding portrait (she is a lovely artist) and create a custom cake topper. She is also in grad school and currently laid up recovering from foot surgery. My frustration is that she knew she needed to get measured and order her dress 6 weeks before the surgery, and she never went. It could be weeks more before she’s mobile again, and it’s making me anxious that the dresses could come in really late because only one of the Bmaids has actually ordered hers.
Bridesmaid or Best Man M: My younger sister. Probably the biggest source of stress right now….M and I have never gotten along, and I honestly might not have asked her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man if my mom hadn’t been so adamant. M repeatedly said she didn’t care if I asked her to be one or not and looks bored whenever I talk about wedding stuff. She was surprisingly supportive of me picking the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses I liked, which I appreciated a lot. She is in nursing school and not making a lot of money, but also knew about the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and deposit in November. She said she would call and make her deposit over the phone hte next business day after we picked them. 2 months later, she hasn’t put it down and spent hundreds of dollars on her boyfriend at Christmas while constantly complaining about how broke she is. I know I have no say in how someone spends their money, but I do find it frustrating that she spent so much on him, whom she constantly complains about, when she also knew well beforehand that the Bridesmaid or Best Man order wouldn’t go in until all 4 paid their deposit and submitted their deposits.
I am aware that 2 of my BMs have financial difficulties, so I have offered to help them out however neither has taken me up on it. I am on a tight budget myself so I can’t afford to just buy their dresses outright. I also know that no one cares as much about the wedding as me. I am just feeling pressured that the dresses haven’t even been ordered, and if there is any issue with backorders or anything like that, it could leave almost no time for alterations if we don’t order soon. I am also on edge because my sister’s disinterest is just another account of her hating not to be the center of attention, but I don’t want to say anything about it because it won’t do any good.
Sorry this is so long…I guess I’m just venting a little. I’m feeling pressured about everything working out right and stressed that I can’t do much to change things. All of a sudden the wedding seems really soon, and I’m just anxious about everything. Thanks for your support.