- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Not sure where this belongs, but since it is related to one of my best friends/bridesmaids I thought I’d post here.
Bridesmaid (we’ll call her “C”) has been a very good friend of mine for almost 16 years. We’ve had our ups and downs, but in the end always made up.
In the past few months, C has been texting me asking if FI could help her with her math homework. He’s an accountant, super smart, and generally likes helping people. Since she is one of my oldest friends, of course he agreed.
She started coming over every weekend for several hours, and she just sits there playing with her hair while FI does ALL her homework and tests (its an online class). Once her class was done, I was so relieved. She was taking up a lot of our weekend time together (even though I was with them, but it’s not like FI and I could really interact since he was focusing so intently on the tests). We both work full-time during the week, and need the weekends to unwind/enjoy each other.
Now, she has ANOTHER math class starting, and she’s already texting me to see when she can come over for “help”. AKA waste my weekend and take advantage of my FI being nice. He won’t tell her no, as he does help everyone with math (his little sister, etc,) because he does enjoy doing the work.
So how do I politely tell her that she has to do the work herself, and if she has a specific question she can ask for help. I’m tired of our hospitality being taken advantage of, but I don’t want to offend one of my oldest friends.
What should I do, bees??