- 9 years ago
- Wedding: October 2009
my fiance and i have been together 9 years. when we first met, we got pregnant only acouple months into dating.
my father is a minister and when i found out i was pregnant, i took it pretty hard at first because of the situation and i was only 18. when i was 4 months pregnant i was still very emotional and i asked my fiance for a little time to think…
during this few weeks, he cheated with my best friend. i didn’t find out until i was 8 months pregnant. i was very upset but forgave them both and moved on.
i’ve managed to keep them from ever seeing eachother(atleast as far as i knew)since that happened.a few years ago one more incident happened concerning my best friend but it’s too personal to put on here…he didn’t cheat or see her but, my fiance had said something in reference to her and it’s haunted me and still hurts me till this day, but it’s not anything she had done…just something he had said.
so my best friend and i have stayed close and remain best friends. i was her maid of honor last year in her wedding. my sisters are my mohs but i’m having her as a bridesmaid. at first it didn’t bother me to have her in the wedding, but as the wedding date gets closer i’m finding myself upset. this will be the first time that my fiance and her will see eachother since they cheated. i don’t even want them to speak to one another. it hurts so bad…still.
it makes it worse because this certain best friend and i have a *not so great* past & she has apologized for many things not just for cheating with my child’s father. we really cared about eachother and always worked things out because we wanted to stay friends…but that part of me that still hurts over the things she’s done to me, and him…make this very hard for me.
ok so, my problem is…i don’t want them that close on my wedding day with this being their FIRST meeting since the cheating that lasted a month back when i was pregnant. i don’t want to worry that day. i don’t want to tell them not to speak to eachother and be wachtching to see if he’s paying attention to her! it’s driving me crazy even thinking about it now…how will i deal with it that day when my emotions are sky high!?
-is it too wrong of me to ask her to step down? if she was just in the crowd at the wedding, it would be easier on me, but having her in the limo and in our pictures…it might be too much for me.
what would some of you do? i don’t know if i’m being ridiculous, a horrible friend, or if i’m acting normally. i really want to ask her to step down, but i feel so awful! i really don’t know what to do!!!!